Everyone are speaking and writing about relaxation so I decided to go for it as well. I believe that six years of conscious efforts to relax deeply and achieving this goal through many different methods will allow me to give you a handful of good advices on how to make your relaxation easier. To save your time I will just mention that if you never experienced any problems with relaxation you can skip next paragraph.
Whenever you read about various breathing methods, body positions, relaxation music and different brainwaves you may think how easy it is to relax and if that is so then probably you are right. Keep in mind that what is beautiful and effortless for us can be difficult for others. Some people have so-called "chattery minds" and when you mention to them something about relaxation they will tell you that they need to get extremely tired even to fall asleep and that you must be crazy if you want them simply to relax. In their case the simply word somehow doesn't fit in space next to relaxation and I am writing about it because this definitely was my case. Fortunately over time I discovered few things which helped me to get at level where in just few minutes I completely lose feeling of my body which is good sign that I am deeply relaxed.
The most basic thing is that you cannot relax when you speak to yourself, plan to conquer the world or create mental images. How your brain should switch off if you keep feeding it with new ideas and provoke to produce images that carry along emotional load? First of all slow down your thinking and even if you have a habit of planning what you will do tomorrow then change it. When you lay down in bed and need to plan something then simply go for it, but while you do keep your eyes open. Give yourself five or ten minutes and then close your eyes. Remembering about this practice creates a new habit which tells your mind that once you are in bed and your eye-lids are closed it is time for deep relax.
Some people see things and some people talk. In their imagination they keep hearing and responding or just speaking out their minds in front of their family, boss or partner. I am not surprised that they cannot relax because how you can fall in a sweet and comfortable state when you are bringing up things that just wake you up. When you are about to relax or go to sleep it is enough that for one minute you will repeat and think how relaxed your tongue is. This will stop inner chat and since your jaw has one of the strongest muscles once they are relaxed all the other will follow it easily.
The last tip in this article describes shortly the first technique that brought me at deeper level of relaxation. Lay down on your back with hands and legs uncrossed. Once you are comfortable, start tensing your muscles from fingers in your feet until your eyes and face muscles. Just tense your fingers, then feet, then first and second part of the legs and right after that continue with abdominal muscles, back muscles and all the rest. Remember to put enough effort in making your hands in hard fists. This whole process should take just ten to 15 seconds and once all of your muscles are nicely tensed keep it like that for few more seconds and just let go.
Another part of the body that can be troublesome to relax are muscles of your eyes. You think of something, your mind produce image of it and your eyes direct right to it. Of course to move they need to tense and change position so it's kind of opposite to what we want to achieve. In order to relax your eyes easily and let your conscious mind fall asleep it's enough that you look at back of your head or at least try to. Your eyes may resist on the beginning and you may feel even bigger tension, but after few moments they will nicely roll-back exactly as they do when you are in deep sleep.
Monday, May 31, 2010
How to Stay Strong Emotionally
Have you ever mastered a skill? Like riding a bike, fixing a computer, becoming a great runner? If you are gifted with Asperger's or mild autism, you are very good at managing academic facts, or details about your areas of passion. However, it may be more of a challenge to deal with learning from and managing your personal emotional states.
In this article, I am going to share some social solutions for staying emotionally strong and resilient, adapted from Dr. Lovett's book, Solutions for Adults With Asperger's Syndrome.
1. Decide it is important to understand and manage your emotions. It's just like lifting weights or getting in physical shape for a sport: if you don't commit the time and effort needed, it just won't happen!
In case you are wondering whether it's worth it to learn emotional mastery, here are a couple of quotes:
"Interpersonal communication and other so-called soft skills are what corporate recruiters crave most but find most elusive in M.B.A. graduates," says the WSJ. "The major business schools produce graduates with analytical horsepower and solid command of the basics -- finance, marketing and strategy. But soft skills such as communication, leadership and a team mentality sometimes receive cursory treatment." -- Wall Street Journal
"Comparing the three domains, I found that for jobs of all kinds, emotional competencies were twice as prevalent among distinguishing competencies as were technical skills and purely cognitive abilities combined. In general the higher a position in an organization, the more EI mattered: for individuals in leadership positions, 85 percent of their competencies were in the EI domain." -- Daniel Goleman
2. Find someone you respect--someone whom you feel handles emotions well--and use that person as a role model. People on the autism spectrum can be very good at imitating and acting. Work on this as if you working on being an actor in a play, and hopefully it will begin coming more easily to you, like learning another language.
3. Find a feelings chart! One of the struggles that I used to have in terms of becoming more emotionally flexible and 'people smart' was even being able to identify what I was feeling, as opposed to 'good' or 'bad.' By developing a wide variety of labels for your emotions, you will be more sophisticated on feeling in control of your emotions, instead of vice versa. I would suggest doing an internet search for 'feelings chart,' and seeing what you come up with.
Once you get the feelings chart, study the different expressions. Take time at different times during the day to stop and ask yourself what you are feeling in terms of your emotions. Ask people who are emotional role models to identify how they are feeling, so that you can hear how they are identifying, labeling, and processing their emotions.
4. Look around you at what is going on. Pay attention to try to see if there is a link between the situation and what you are feeling. For example, a very obvious example would be if you are driving along, and someone swerves and almost hits your car. You find yourself feeling flushed, heart pumping, hands clenched on the steering wheel: and you're scared and angry.
5. Keep a thoughts and feelings journal. One of the best books I have found in terms of linking how you think with how you feel is the Thoughts and Feelings Workbook, by McKay, Fanning and Davis. I highly recommend that you get and study this workbook.
6. It may help to have a friend or family member that you can talk to when you are upset. Sometimes, it may be helpful to give yourself time alone, or to walk off the steam when you are upset. Remember, staying emotionally strong is a journey of a lifetime. Just do a little bit each day, and you will grow stronger daily in this area.
In this article, I am going to share some social solutions for staying emotionally strong and resilient, adapted from Dr. Lovett's book, Solutions for Adults With Asperger's Syndrome.
1. Decide it is important to understand and manage your emotions. It's just like lifting weights or getting in physical shape for a sport: if you don't commit the time and effort needed, it just won't happen!
In case you are wondering whether it's worth it to learn emotional mastery, here are a couple of quotes:
"Interpersonal communication and other so-called soft skills are what corporate recruiters crave most but find most elusive in M.B.A. graduates," says the WSJ. "The major business schools produce graduates with analytical horsepower and solid command of the basics -- finance, marketing and strategy. But soft skills such as communication, leadership and a team mentality sometimes receive cursory treatment." -- Wall Street Journal
"Comparing the three domains, I found that for jobs of all kinds, emotional competencies were twice as prevalent among distinguishing competencies as were technical skills and purely cognitive abilities combined. In general the higher a position in an organization, the more EI mattered: for individuals in leadership positions, 85 percent of their competencies were in the EI domain." -- Daniel Goleman
2. Find someone you respect--someone whom you feel handles emotions well--and use that person as a role model. People on the autism spectrum can be very good at imitating and acting. Work on this as if you working on being an actor in a play, and hopefully it will begin coming more easily to you, like learning another language.
3. Find a feelings chart! One of the struggles that I used to have in terms of becoming more emotionally flexible and 'people smart' was even being able to identify what I was feeling, as opposed to 'good' or 'bad.' By developing a wide variety of labels for your emotions, you will be more sophisticated on feeling in control of your emotions, instead of vice versa. I would suggest doing an internet search for 'feelings chart,' and seeing what you come up with.
Once you get the feelings chart, study the different expressions. Take time at different times during the day to stop and ask yourself what you are feeling in terms of your emotions. Ask people who are emotional role models to identify how they are feeling, so that you can hear how they are identifying, labeling, and processing their emotions.
4. Look around you at what is going on. Pay attention to try to see if there is a link between the situation and what you are feeling. For example, a very obvious example would be if you are driving along, and someone swerves and almost hits your car. You find yourself feeling flushed, heart pumping, hands clenched on the steering wheel: and you're scared and angry.
5. Keep a thoughts and feelings journal. One of the best books I have found in terms of linking how you think with how you feel is the Thoughts and Feelings Workbook, by McKay, Fanning and Davis. I highly recommend that you get and study this workbook.
6. It may help to have a friend or family member that you can talk to when you are upset. Sometimes, it may be helpful to give yourself time alone, or to walk off the steam when you are upset. Remember, staying emotionally strong is a journey of a lifetime. Just do a little bit each day, and you will grow stronger daily in this area.
Body Language
When I teach Body Language at my workshops, I notice that generally, it's a subject that everyone seems to be interested in and wants to get involved with; and it's not really surprising because Body Language is, indeed, a most fascinating subject. The first book I can remember reading on the subject was Desmond Morris's The Naked Ape; a brilliant exposition and one that I really enjoyed reading way back in the 1960s.
Since then, a number of somewhat eclectic NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming) writers have sought to embrace Body Language as falling ithin the scope of the genre, so today, much of the popular writing about the subject is to be found within the wider context of NLP. Of course, Body Language is not a part of NLP as such; it is an interesting area of study which naturally falls within the discipline of Anthropology - the study of human beings.
Back in the 1960s, when Desmond Morris's book was first published, I remember seeing him interviewed on the Parkinson Show on UK television. He was both entertaining and engaging; and it was on the strength of that interview that I went out and got the book. In the book, amongst other things, there is a section on: what to do if you get stopped by the police. And, over the years - whilst this has been a fairly infrequent occurrence - I have consistently used the advise he gives; and on almost every occasion, I have been let-off with a simple road-side caution.
On one occasion, I remember deliberately driving through a red traffic light. It was early in the morning, on a deserted road where I had very good visibility of the crossing in both directions; and, quite frankly, I did not see a reason to stop. Now, I don't know where the police car came from, but I was pretty soon asked to pull-over. After a short discussion in which I employed the principles outlined in the Desmond Morris book, he let me off - amazing, but true! Such is the astonishing power of Body Language.
When you learn to use body language to your benefit in all social situations, you will always make the friends, win the day, get the job - things will naturally begin to go your way. It may be difficult to accept, at first, but body language, which includes the ability to develop rapport using non-verbal signals - is just about the most important skill to can learn to cultivate if you want to get on with people. And, let's face it, so much of life is about exactly that - getting on with people. Learn how to master this art and your career will take-off.
Since then, a number of somewhat eclectic NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming) writers have sought to embrace Body Language as falling ithin the scope of the genre, so today, much of the popular writing about the subject is to be found within the wider context of NLP. Of course, Body Language is not a part of NLP as such; it is an interesting area of study which naturally falls within the discipline of Anthropology - the study of human beings.
Back in the 1960s, when Desmond Morris's book was first published, I remember seeing him interviewed on the Parkinson Show on UK television. He was both entertaining and engaging; and it was on the strength of that interview that I went out and got the book. In the book, amongst other things, there is a section on: what to do if you get stopped by the police. And, over the years - whilst this has been a fairly infrequent occurrence - I have consistently used the advise he gives; and on almost every occasion, I have been let-off with a simple road-side caution.
On one occasion, I remember deliberately driving through a red traffic light. It was early in the morning, on a deserted road where I had very good visibility of the crossing in both directions; and, quite frankly, I did not see a reason to stop. Now, I don't know where the police car came from, but I was pretty soon asked to pull-over. After a short discussion in which I employed the principles outlined in the Desmond Morris book, he let me off - amazing, but true! Such is the astonishing power of Body Language.
When you learn to use body language to your benefit in all social situations, you will always make the friends, win the day, get the job - things will naturally begin to go your way. It may be difficult to accept, at first, but body language, which includes the ability to develop rapport using non-verbal signals - is just about the most important skill to can learn to cultivate if you want to get on with people. And, let's face it, so much of life is about exactly that - getting on with people. Learn how to master this art and your career will take-off.
The Power to Change
One of the first steps in positive change is self-awareness, or mindfulness. First of all, we need to be aware of what we really want and what gets in the way of achieving it. Very often the barriers to change are internal, or emotional. The more aware we become of our internal, or emotional state, the better prepared we are to make positive choices for change.
For instance, if we want to change a communication pattern with another person, such as expressing anger or impatience, we need to be aware of when this pattern happens. What is a typical situation? What are you thinking? What are you feeling? What sensations arise in your body? Beginning to notice these things, without judgment, is the first step of change. Reflecting on past situations will help develop awareness for different behavior in the future. Then, developing moment-by-moment self-awareness when with that person would be essential.
You can practice this moment-by-moment self-awareness by doing the following exercise often throughout the day:
Mini-Mindfulness Meditation Exercise:
Take a few deep breaths and become aware of your body. Feel the sensations of the chair pressing against your body, your feet on the floor. Notice your shoulders, chest, and stomach - just observing how you are in this moment - any sensations of tightness or tension. You can do this with your eyes open or shut.
If you practice this little exercise often during the day when you are relaxed, it will become second nature to you to check in with yourself often. Then, you will be more likely to do it in more difficult situations, such as when you are triggered to react.
If you notice your body tensing, your heart beating fast, your mouth getting ready to speak, you can just take a few breaths and take time to respond in a different way. This gives you the freedom and power of choice, rather than acting out of an old habit.
Exercise of practicing mindfulness: Here is another variation of the exercise. Sit in chair for few minutes. Close eyes. Notice your body sensations on the chair, both feet on the floor. Become aware of breath. In and out. Notice sensation of breath. Breathe in and out to count of 4 each way. Breathe in and out for a few minutes.
Anytime your mind wanders off, bring it back to your breath.
You don't have to totally clear your mind. Just allow the thoughts to come and let them go. As though your mind is a stream, and your thoughts are leaves on the water. Just let them go by.
Notice where your mind wants to go. Do not judge yourself, just observe.
Open your eyes.
Practicing this simple mindfulness exercise builds mindfulness. Mindfulness helps us to make behavioral changes. Our goal is to focus on present moment. Unfortunately, we tend to live in the past or future in a mindless fashion. Often our state is like a trance. We peak thoughtlessly. Grab cookie without realizing it.
Being aware is first step in changing behavior.
For instance, if we want to change a communication pattern with another person, such as expressing anger or impatience, we need to be aware of when this pattern happens. What is a typical situation? What are you thinking? What are you feeling? What sensations arise in your body? Beginning to notice these things, without judgment, is the first step of change. Reflecting on past situations will help develop awareness for different behavior in the future. Then, developing moment-by-moment self-awareness when with that person would be essential.
You can practice this moment-by-moment self-awareness by doing the following exercise often throughout the day:
Mini-Mindfulness Meditation Exercise:
Take a few deep breaths and become aware of your body. Feel the sensations of the chair pressing against your body, your feet on the floor. Notice your shoulders, chest, and stomach - just observing how you are in this moment - any sensations of tightness or tension. You can do this with your eyes open or shut.
If you practice this little exercise often during the day when you are relaxed, it will become second nature to you to check in with yourself often. Then, you will be more likely to do it in more difficult situations, such as when you are triggered to react.
If you notice your body tensing, your heart beating fast, your mouth getting ready to speak, you can just take a few breaths and take time to respond in a different way. This gives you the freedom and power of choice, rather than acting out of an old habit.
Exercise of practicing mindfulness: Here is another variation of the exercise. Sit in chair for few minutes. Close eyes. Notice your body sensations on the chair, both feet on the floor. Become aware of breath. In and out. Notice sensation of breath. Breathe in and out to count of 4 each way. Breathe in and out for a few minutes.
Anytime your mind wanders off, bring it back to your breath.
You don't have to totally clear your mind. Just allow the thoughts to come and let them go. As though your mind is a stream, and your thoughts are leaves on the water. Just let them go by.
Notice where your mind wants to go. Do not judge yourself, just observe.
Open your eyes.
Practicing this simple mindfulness exercise builds mindfulness. Mindfulness helps us to make behavioral changes. Our goal is to focus on present moment. Unfortunately, we tend to live in the past or future in a mindless fashion. Often our state is like a trance. We peak thoughtlessly. Grab cookie without realizing it.
Being aware is first step in changing behavior.
Imagine Living Your Dream!
Imagination is everything. It is the preview of life's coming attractions." - Albert Einstein
People define the term, "creative visualization" as a mental technique using your imagination to create what you want in life. Creative visualization can create miracles by just creating images, thoughts, feelings and emotions.
We use visualization every day in our life. When we imagine our next vacations or think about our new boyfriend, our new car, new house, our next job... we visualize all kinds of events or things. When we are thinking about negative things, we are visualizing too. These are the things that we don't want to bring to our life.
Creative visualization is a powerful tool which we need to know how to use correctly and positively. Visualize only the events, situation or objects that you want to bring to your life. The little trick is that you need to visualize them as if you have already attained them. You can visualize at any time in any place. Some people say the best way to visualize is in a quiet place, with your body relaxed and your eyes closed. And the best time is during the night before sleeping, and in the morning before you awakening because the mind and body are relaxed and receptive.
Steps for a successful visualization:
positive affirmations and afformations. Vision Board.
An Encouragement Talk.
Something like:
-We live in a beautiful big house in Sierra Madre.
-I'm swimming in the big pool and feeling the fresh water all over my body.
- My dog is running around the pool.
-I can smell the chicken barbecuing in the beautiful cabin next to the colorful garden...
And we finish with a grateful affirmation:
-Thank God for this beautiful house where we live. We're very happy!
I'm sure you can create your own technique to visualize what you want to attract to your life, or make a combination of these explained here. Whatever works for you is good. There are no rules. You are the only one who knows what works for you. Don't forget to have a true desire.
This is a regular conversation. I practice this with my daughter. We talk about the things we want to get. She says a positive affirmation to describe the situations and things, and then I say another affirmation to continue with the conversation and so on. Mind Movies. believe and be happy with the results!A very good visualization technique. This is a movie about your dreams and goals, about the life you want to live. It is very fun to make and edit all the images, sound and, sometimes, text. You can include your family, your new house, your next vacation, your successful business and everything you want. Use all the beautiful images and desires to encourage yourself. Paste images of the things you want to have, be or do in your life on a board. The purpose is to help you remember the things you want to visualize. This is a fun way to visualize and one of my favorites. Keep the vision board in a place where you can see it several times a day. By repeating your positive affirmations and afformations, you can create images in your mind that help you to visualize the life you want.
-Add feelings and emotions.
-Fake it till you make it!
Techniques of creative visualization:
Positive
Your Success Interview
Here, you take the role of a famous, successful person. Imagine you are being interviewed by a famous host like Oprah. Imagine the questions she is asking you: How did you start? What is the key to your success? Who inspires you? What are your next goals? Using this technique allows you to see your goal as attained already and may help you to develop new ideas. Live it Now! How happy do you feel having that in your life?
-Think about EXACTLY what do you want to bring to your life? Be specific. (I want a two-week summer vacation at Atlantis Paradise Island in the Bahamas.)
- Create a clear idea, pictures/images.
- Focus your mind on that and be
People define the term, "creative visualization" as a mental technique using your imagination to create what you want in life. Creative visualization can create miracles by just creating images, thoughts, feelings and emotions.
We use visualization every day in our life. When we imagine our next vacations or think about our new boyfriend, our new car, new house, our next job... we visualize all kinds of events or things. When we are thinking about negative things, we are visualizing too. These are the things that we don't want to bring to our life.
Creative visualization is a powerful tool which we need to know how to use correctly and positively. Visualize only the events, situation or objects that you want to bring to your life. The little trick is that you need to visualize them as if you have already attained them. You can visualize at any time in any place. Some people say the best way to visualize is in a quiet place, with your body relaxed and your eyes closed. And the best time is during the night before sleeping, and in the morning before you awakening because the mind and body are relaxed and receptive.
Steps for a successful visualization:
positive affirmations and afformations. Vision Board.
An Encouragement Talk.
Something like:
-We live in a beautiful big house in Sierra Madre.
-I'm swimming in the big pool and feeling the fresh water all over my body.
- My dog is running around the pool.
-I can smell the chicken barbecuing in the beautiful cabin next to the colorful garden...
And we finish with a grateful affirmation:
-Thank God for this beautiful house where we live. We're very happy!
I'm sure you can create your own technique to visualize what you want to attract to your life, or make a combination of these explained here. Whatever works for you is good. There are no rules. You are the only one who knows what works for you. Don't forget to have a true desire.
This is a regular conversation. I practice this with my daughter. We talk about the things we want to get. She says a positive affirmation to describe the situations and things, and then I say another affirmation to continue with the conversation and so on. Mind Movies. believe and be happy with the results!A very good visualization technique. This is a movie about your dreams and goals, about the life you want to live. It is very fun to make and edit all the images, sound and, sometimes, text. You can include your family, your new house, your next vacation, your successful business and everything you want. Use all the beautiful images and desires to encourage yourself. Paste images of the things you want to have, be or do in your life on a board. The purpose is to help you remember the things you want to visualize. This is a fun way to visualize and one of my favorites. Keep the vision board in a place where you can see it several times a day. By repeating your positive affirmations and afformations, you can create images in your mind that help you to visualize the life you want.
-Add feelings and emotions.
-Fake it till you make it!
Techniques of creative visualization:
Positive
Your Success Interview
Here, you take the role of a famous, successful person. Imagine you are being interviewed by a famous host like Oprah. Imagine the questions she is asking you: How did you start? What is the key to your success? Who inspires you? What are your next goals? Using this technique allows you to see your goal as attained already and may help you to develop new ideas. Live it Now! How happy do you feel having that in your life?
-Think about EXACTLY what do you want to bring to your life? Be specific. (I want a two-week summer vacation at Atlantis Paradise Island in the Bahamas.)
- Create a clear idea, pictures/images.
- Focus your mind on that and be
Does it Give You a Better Life?
What Are Your Thoughts?
One very accurate and organic observation methodology is The Enneagram. It can be used with incredible accuracy to describe nine essential personality types or operating styles, within which there are a myriad number of ways people demonstrate the basic patterns. These core types define the way people's chief characteristics inhibit their choices, life options and connection to what we call their essence or true nature.
At its most simplistic, it is a study of the nine chief personality types with the understanding that each type in its most fluid form moves to two of the other types under differing circumstances and is flavoured usually by the type or point adjacent to it on this mysterious diagram. This triangulated version of personality is also referred to as "The Law of Three."
Once we become aware of our basic operating type we can unravel questions such as:
• When is it beneficial to surrender to our emotions and when is it better to observe them from afar?
• When does it pay to stay in a relationship or is it healthier to get out?
• When is it good to stay with something and when is it intelligent to seek new possibilities?
• When is it wise to work with the intellect and when should we give in to our feelings?
• Is it wise to analyse something too much or is it more fruitful to just make a decision and do something?
• When is it better to be a hedonist and when is it better to look for intimacy? Can we combine both?
• In what circumstances should we be outspoken and when should we back down?
• At what stage should we look at a new career and when should we stay and consolidate our position?
• When should we consider more physical activities and when should we seek intellectual or artistic stimulation? Is there a conflict?
• is it possible to have security and spontaneity peacefully co-existing in our life?
• Can we lead our existing life if we do not like our work?
• When is a good time to take a long break from work? When is it essential and when is it overdue?
It will help if we are prepared to look at the more hidden aspects of our personalities otherwise the task of unravelling our hidden potential will be impossible. Most of us would like to go from point A to point B in some sort of improvement spiral. It is an appealing idea but not very helpful.
Below we represent certain chief characteristics as portrayed by this System. A sure-fire way to find out what characteristics are holding us back is to ask our friends, colleagues and family who are usually all too happy to point out to us some of our less appealing personal traits.
There are different perspectives to ascertain your predominant type and I will list below nine questions, which relate specifically to the nine types and precisely in that order:
1. You have an endless stream of judging thoughts, and are constantly comparing yourself to others.
2. You are socially ambitious and attracted to powerful people, offering them your help in return for their attention and protection.
3. It is important that you present an image of success to others, regardless of how you might be feeling inside.
4. You feel impatient with ordinary life, and are fascinated by the extraordinary, the dramatic and tragic.
5. At parties you tend to be quiet and invisible, preferring not to interact or participate.
6. You are very aware or your own feelings, and the feelings of others, and you are suspicious of people's hidden intentions towards you.
7. You tend to avoid deep, emotional contact, preferring fun activities, pleasant talking and doing many things at once.
8. You enjoy being powerful and never let people take advantage of you, and you respect these qualities in others.
9. It is difficult for you to maintain a personal point of view, but you are easily able to recognise and support another's position
What we are trying to accomplish in this fashion is to really use the mirror of our relationships as a method to get clearer on who we are and why we have been operating in ways that have been destructive or harmful to others and ourselves.
If we can observe our habits and qualities constructively and without judging them it will be easier to watch them disappear. The more we fight some habit the more difficult it will be to let go of it. Ask any smoker! What is even worse is winning over some bad habit through force and not understanding as this only pushes that habit down and another one quickly surfaces. This fact is well known to any person who has genuinely tried to give up some habit or compulsion they feel does not serve them anymore. It is also well known by behavioural psychologists who work with addictions.
You could call the chief characteristics of each type addictions of some sort, but the good news is that by watching them with some acceptance, they lose their power over us. As these so-called negative characteristics begin to lose their hold over us we notice a quite obvious shift in our relationships with others and ourselves.
There was a recent survey in the USA of 733 multi-millionaires about the reasons for their success. The top five answers were being honest with all people, being well disciplined, getting along with people, having a supportive spouse and working harder than others.
Many of these qualities represent some of the virtues of certain types, so with increased awareness of your potential and your weaknesses, intelligence commences taking the upper hand and opportunities and creative solutions are seen more easily.
About the author
Sam was born in Sydney, Australia where he completed his education as a lawyer. Later, he was trained in India as a Bioenergetics Therapist, Meditation Leader, Neo-Reichian Bodyworker, Facilitator, Hypnotherapist and Practitioner of Rebalancing.
He now works with Life Constellations, Quest of the Soul and Family Constellations helping people find their flame. He spent many years in India and his life was moulded at an early age by the works of Gurdjieff, inspired by Yogananda and etched in fire by Osho.
Sam now lives in Byron Bay with his partner Agar and travels regularly doing workshops devoted to triggering change in people's lives. He shares his insights freely, in a direct, practical and humorous way to lighten the load and expose the path less travelled.
One very accurate and organic observation methodology is The Enneagram. It can be used with incredible accuracy to describe nine essential personality types or operating styles, within which there are a myriad number of ways people demonstrate the basic patterns. These core types define the way people's chief characteristics inhibit their choices, life options and connection to what we call their essence or true nature.
At its most simplistic, it is a study of the nine chief personality types with the understanding that each type in its most fluid form moves to two of the other types under differing circumstances and is flavoured usually by the type or point adjacent to it on this mysterious diagram. This triangulated version of personality is also referred to as "The Law of Three."
Once we become aware of our basic operating type we can unravel questions such as:
• When is it beneficial to surrender to our emotions and when is it better to observe them from afar?
• When does it pay to stay in a relationship or is it healthier to get out?
• When is it good to stay with something and when is it intelligent to seek new possibilities?
• When is it wise to work with the intellect and when should we give in to our feelings?
• Is it wise to analyse something too much or is it more fruitful to just make a decision and do something?
• When is it better to be a hedonist and when is it better to look for intimacy? Can we combine both?
• In what circumstances should we be outspoken and when should we back down?
• At what stage should we look at a new career and when should we stay and consolidate our position?
• When should we consider more physical activities and when should we seek intellectual or artistic stimulation? Is there a conflict?
• is it possible to have security and spontaneity peacefully co-existing in our life?
• Can we lead our existing life if we do not like our work?
• When is a good time to take a long break from work? When is it essential and when is it overdue?
It will help if we are prepared to look at the more hidden aspects of our personalities otherwise the task of unravelling our hidden potential will be impossible. Most of us would like to go from point A to point B in some sort of improvement spiral. It is an appealing idea but not very helpful.
Below we represent certain chief characteristics as portrayed by this System. A sure-fire way to find out what characteristics are holding us back is to ask our friends, colleagues and family who are usually all too happy to point out to us some of our less appealing personal traits.
There are different perspectives to ascertain your predominant type and I will list below nine questions, which relate specifically to the nine types and precisely in that order:
1. You have an endless stream of judging thoughts, and are constantly comparing yourself to others.
2. You are socially ambitious and attracted to powerful people, offering them your help in return for their attention and protection.
3. It is important that you present an image of success to others, regardless of how you might be feeling inside.
4. You feel impatient with ordinary life, and are fascinated by the extraordinary, the dramatic and tragic.
5. At parties you tend to be quiet and invisible, preferring not to interact or participate.
6. You are very aware or your own feelings, and the feelings of others, and you are suspicious of people's hidden intentions towards you.
7. You tend to avoid deep, emotional contact, preferring fun activities, pleasant talking and doing many things at once.
8. You enjoy being powerful and never let people take advantage of you, and you respect these qualities in others.
9. It is difficult for you to maintain a personal point of view, but you are easily able to recognise and support another's position
What we are trying to accomplish in this fashion is to really use the mirror of our relationships as a method to get clearer on who we are and why we have been operating in ways that have been destructive or harmful to others and ourselves.
If we can observe our habits and qualities constructively and without judging them it will be easier to watch them disappear. The more we fight some habit the more difficult it will be to let go of it. Ask any smoker! What is even worse is winning over some bad habit through force and not understanding as this only pushes that habit down and another one quickly surfaces. This fact is well known to any person who has genuinely tried to give up some habit or compulsion they feel does not serve them anymore. It is also well known by behavioural psychologists who work with addictions.
You could call the chief characteristics of each type addictions of some sort, but the good news is that by watching them with some acceptance, they lose their power over us. As these so-called negative characteristics begin to lose their hold over us we notice a quite obvious shift in our relationships with others and ourselves.
There was a recent survey in the USA of 733 multi-millionaires about the reasons for their success. The top five answers were being honest with all people, being well disciplined, getting along with people, having a supportive spouse and working harder than others.
Many of these qualities represent some of the virtues of certain types, so with increased awareness of your potential and your weaknesses, intelligence commences taking the upper hand and opportunities and creative solutions are seen more easily.
About the author
Sam was born in Sydney, Australia where he completed his education as a lawyer. Later, he was trained in India as a Bioenergetics Therapist, Meditation Leader, Neo-Reichian Bodyworker, Facilitator, Hypnotherapist and Practitioner of Rebalancing.
He now works with Life Constellations, Quest of the Soul and Family Constellations helping people find their flame. He spent many years in India and his life was moulded at an early age by the works of Gurdjieff, inspired by Yogananda and etched in fire by Osho.
Sam now lives in Byron Bay with his partner Agar and travels regularly doing workshops devoted to triggering change in people's lives. He shares his insights freely, in a direct, practical and humorous way to lighten the load and expose the path less travelled.
How to Generate a Good Idea For Communication
Idea generation is no doubt the absolute essential for a good communication. In fact, in other words, it is the beginning of a communication. The very understanding of this vital event is the core to evoke quality communication.
Brain - The Central Manufacturing Unit
As per some strong scientific research, our human brain consists of about 100 billion neurons and 100 trillion synapses. Along with that, the glial cells which are more numerous in number provide a valuable support to these neurons. Neurons generally send and receive electro-chemical signals to and from the brain and nervous system. We have enough to feel good and thank God about the capacity of these neurotransmitters to carry information across the human body. The more delicate the nexus is, the better equipped is our central information manufacturing and procession unit.
The Stimulation of Nature and Life
As we are already equipped with innumerable transmitters and receptors across the human body, it is never going to be a problem for us to juggle with gigabytes of information. In fact, as a core part of the nature itself, we have got our emotions, feelings and sentiments going strong at par with the whereabouts of nature. Along with nature, our fellow human beings acts as a supreme catalyst for procuring and manufacturing diversely quantitative information pool of thoughts and ideas. Their thoughts, words, speech and even the simplest of the form of reactions are directly proportional to the magnitude of ideas imbibed within us.
The Urge to Deliver or Convey
The process of transference of thoughts and messages across individuals is natural in the realistic sense of human urge to pass on what he has in his mind to the others. In fact, the more deliberate the process is, the better it is in terms of smooth information transference. Sometimes, of course, it is a matter of attitude or mentality which stimulates brain juices to accumulate data and pass it on to the other human counterpart promptly through the neurotransmitters.
Summary: From the layman's point of view, an idea is just a byproduct of natural events and cross human interventions in the society. The pivotal tool in this regards will of course be the neuron, the automatic carrier of information. It is as astonishing as it is true that we the human beings are capable of producing and processing zillions of information packets and that too within a short span of time. It is rightly said that "Whatever our Mind can Conceive and Heart can Believe, We can Achieve".
Sourav Das Gupta, Senior Executive HR, Compete Infotech has got years of experience in interview handling, recruitment, training and placement. He is proud to be a part of one of the biggest network of youth ministry committed to the development of the society in the real sense of the term.
Brain - The Central Manufacturing Unit
As per some strong scientific research, our human brain consists of about 100 billion neurons and 100 trillion synapses. Along with that, the glial cells which are more numerous in number provide a valuable support to these neurons. Neurons generally send and receive electro-chemical signals to and from the brain and nervous system. We have enough to feel good and thank God about the capacity of these neurotransmitters to carry information across the human body. The more delicate the nexus is, the better equipped is our central information manufacturing and procession unit.
The Stimulation of Nature and Life
As we are already equipped with innumerable transmitters and receptors across the human body, it is never going to be a problem for us to juggle with gigabytes of information. In fact, as a core part of the nature itself, we have got our emotions, feelings and sentiments going strong at par with the whereabouts of nature. Along with nature, our fellow human beings acts as a supreme catalyst for procuring and manufacturing diversely quantitative information pool of thoughts and ideas. Their thoughts, words, speech and even the simplest of the form of reactions are directly proportional to the magnitude of ideas imbibed within us.
The Urge to Deliver or Convey
The process of transference of thoughts and messages across individuals is natural in the realistic sense of human urge to pass on what he has in his mind to the others. In fact, the more deliberate the process is, the better it is in terms of smooth information transference. Sometimes, of course, it is a matter of attitude or mentality which stimulates brain juices to accumulate data and pass it on to the other human counterpart promptly through the neurotransmitters.
Summary: From the layman's point of view, an idea is just a byproduct of natural events and cross human interventions in the society. The pivotal tool in this regards will of course be the neuron, the automatic carrier of information. It is as astonishing as it is true that we the human beings are capable of producing and processing zillions of information packets and that too within a short span of time. It is rightly said that "Whatever our Mind can Conceive and Heart can Believe, We can Achieve".
Sourav Das Gupta, Senior Executive HR, Compete Infotech has got years of experience in interview handling, recruitment, training and placement. He is proud to be a part of one of the biggest network of youth ministry committed to the development of the society in the real sense of the term.
Listening is a Key to Life
So many issues in life. So many important things to deal with. All of those issues that we have to deal with day in and day out, would be helped if we listened better. Remember the old question, ""Why did God give us two ears and only one mouth?" it's a key point to making things better in our life. Of course the answer is that we should listen twice as much as we speak. This is one point that I try and work on all the time in my life. There are still many times that I come up short with this point. I am trying to reinforce that point with my students in my classes at school. I just know that if they are able to begin working on this very important point sooner in their lives than I did in mine, it could mean some great opportunities come their way. And to think that most people don't use this point in their lives, so hopefully my students, myself, and others that are practicing this point can help others to learn about it. The older we get in life, the more that this point becomes.
Listening is one of those important life skills that we all need for success. It starts early in our lives where we are taught to listen to our parents at such a young age. We are taught to listen to them at home, in public, crossing the street, playing outside, riding a bike, not to talk to strangers, etc. There is also the example that they set for us. Do our parents listen well? To each other, to other people in life, do they listen to us while we are kids?? All those things are picked up by us (and all kids) at such a young age. So we can see where the example can be the opposite. Since I have started working with and studying Leadership and Success principles, I have tried so hard now to pay attention to my wife and kids when they are talking to me. I've really tried to stop what I'm doing in order to listen better, especially while using the computer, doing school work or watching basketball on T.V. I've had to really try and change my habits to make things go better at home with me listening.
Steven Covey brings up a great point when he says "The deepest need of the human heart is to be understood." When we listen to others, we send a great message, make a great connection, and tell them without saying a word that we really care for them and that they are important. In schools today, students just really want to be listened to. As a teacher I see this everyday to be the truth. Husbands want their wives to just listen to them; wives have always wanted their husbands to listen to them. Children want to be heard by their parents, the list goes on and on. The other great thing to come from this is that all the people that watch you when you are doing it. It's a powerful message when you are the one that is not interrupting others, just so that you can get your point across. People will notice this simply because it is so rare.
This reminds me about a story that I heard awhile ago. A friend of mine was telling me a story that over the last few years he seemed to be having a lot of frustrating talks with a family member of his. There would be a lot of angry words and yelling it seems. But then, this family member of his, sat down and simply listened to him. This friend of mine was able to say things calmly about how frustrated he was with what's been going on along with the fact that he just wanted to understand this family member and why he was always getting so upset over things. It worked, as things have gotten a lot better in their house. I asked him what the difference was. My friend told me the two of them sat down and listened to each other, rather than only trying to get their own side of the story out. They found some common ground and began to spend their time listening rather than just focusing on being heard.
I always ask myself a question when I learn something like this. "Is there someone I can try this on?" I know there are plenty of people that I could try to listen to better so that our relationship gets better. What about you? Pick someone who is close to you and maybe your relationship with that person is not where you know it should be. Try really listening to them when they talk and see what happens. Put them first in your conversations. Make it about them, not about you.
My guess is that it will make a difference with that person. Watch the differences shine with your relationship with this person. Then feel free to do this to more people too. I'm still working on this too. There has been a distinct difference with many people. The results are incredible. But I know I have to do more. As always I'm always very interested in finding out how this goes.
Listening is one of those important life skills that we all need for success. It starts early in our lives where we are taught to listen to our parents at such a young age. We are taught to listen to them at home, in public, crossing the street, playing outside, riding a bike, not to talk to strangers, etc. There is also the example that they set for us. Do our parents listen well? To each other, to other people in life, do they listen to us while we are kids?? All those things are picked up by us (and all kids) at such a young age. So we can see where the example can be the opposite. Since I have started working with and studying Leadership and Success principles, I have tried so hard now to pay attention to my wife and kids when they are talking to me. I've really tried to stop what I'm doing in order to listen better, especially while using the computer, doing school work or watching basketball on T.V. I've had to really try and change my habits to make things go better at home with me listening.
Steven Covey brings up a great point when he says "The deepest need of the human heart is to be understood." When we listen to others, we send a great message, make a great connection, and tell them without saying a word that we really care for them and that they are important. In schools today, students just really want to be listened to. As a teacher I see this everyday to be the truth. Husbands want their wives to just listen to them; wives have always wanted their husbands to listen to them. Children want to be heard by their parents, the list goes on and on. The other great thing to come from this is that all the people that watch you when you are doing it. It's a powerful message when you are the one that is not interrupting others, just so that you can get your point across. People will notice this simply because it is so rare.
This reminds me about a story that I heard awhile ago. A friend of mine was telling me a story that over the last few years he seemed to be having a lot of frustrating talks with a family member of his. There would be a lot of angry words and yelling it seems. But then, this family member of his, sat down and simply listened to him. This friend of mine was able to say things calmly about how frustrated he was with what's been going on along with the fact that he just wanted to understand this family member and why he was always getting so upset over things. It worked, as things have gotten a lot better in their house. I asked him what the difference was. My friend told me the two of them sat down and listened to each other, rather than only trying to get their own side of the story out. They found some common ground and began to spend their time listening rather than just focusing on being heard.
I always ask myself a question when I learn something like this. "Is there someone I can try this on?" I know there are plenty of people that I could try to listen to better so that our relationship gets better. What about you? Pick someone who is close to you and maybe your relationship with that person is not where you know it should be. Try really listening to them when they talk and see what happens. Put them first in your conversations. Make it about them, not about you.
My guess is that it will make a difference with that person. Watch the differences shine with your relationship with this person. Then feel free to do this to more people too. I'm still working on this too. There has been a distinct difference with many people. The results are incredible. But I know I have to do more. As always I'm always very interested in finding out how this goes.
The Principle of Requesting For a Reflection
Master communicators are well aware of this fact. Effective communicators are conscious of the reality. They are mindful of the fact that the message they send out is not always the message that's received.
To illustrate, sometime ago, my sister was about sending a young girl to go help her buy some stuffs, I also took that opportunity to ask the girl to help me buy a detergent, too. She returned with two detergents instead of one. She said I asked her to buy two. Obviously, she mistook my "too" to mean "two detergents."
Furthermore, master communicators are also acutely aware of the fact that a misunderstanding of the intended message could be disastrous. In fact, it could lead to deaths. That is why I have adapted one of Murphy's Laws to communication. Here is it...
Any message that can be misunderstood will be misunderstood. Of all the messages that can be misunderstood, the most important and crucial message will be misunderstood at the worst possible moment and will cause the greatest amount of damage.
So, what do master communicators do when they suspect or perceive that their intended message had not been accurately received? They clearly request for a reflection, they ask for a response to ascertain that the receiver understood the message.
First, they use verbal cues in the form of questions like:
* Is that clear?
* Did you understand me?
* Did you get the message?
These will illicit response such as "Yes." But sometimes, this kind of verbal cues and the yes response from the receiver isn't just enough to make you confident that your intended message was truly understood. This is when you ask for a reflection.
By asking for a reflection, you're asking the receiver to restate in his or her own words what they heard you say. This will then offer you the opportunity to correct any misunderstanding noticed in their reflection using clearer words to restate your message effectively.
Let's use the previous illustration as example:
"Mary, please help me get a detergent, too."
Sensing that my intended message was not accurately received, I would ask for a reflection, "Mary, please can you tell me what I asked you to buy for me?"
And let's assume Mary replied, "You say I should help you buy two pieces of detergents." This is a confirmation of my suspicion that my intended message was not truly received.
Now when people hear reflections that confirm their suspicion that their message was not accurately received, it's natural and common for them to respond in attacking style (especially in relationships) thus...
* "I knew it! You don't pay attention when I talk to you!!"
* "I knew you didn't understand me."
* "You're wrong! What were you thinking?"
Assertions like these are poor ways to communicate, it strangles communication. When you react this way, the other person may feel guilty or ashamed and you're not likely to illicit cooperation or get sincere response from a guilty person.
Conversely, master communicators don't react in such a non-flexible way. They take 100% responsibility for the result of their communication. They are very careful about the words they choose to use. Instead of judging, yelling, and labeling the other person, they are grateful for the feedback and would then go this way:
"John, thank you for letting me know what you heard. It is obvious I didn't make myself clear enough for you to understand. Let me give it another try."
Now, what if the other person reacts to your request for a reflection in a rude manner by making assertions like:
* "I heard you, I'm not deaf."
* "You think I'm a fool?"
* "Are you saying I'm stupid not to have understood you?"
What do you do?
First, as they say, prevention is better than cure. You can prevent this kind of reaction upfront before asking for a reflection by assuring the other person that you're not testing their intelligence or listening skills, but want to ensure you express your message clearly to avoid problems that could arise from misunderstanding your intended message.
But if it did happen that the other person reacts to your request for a reflection rudely or sarcastically, then you do what master communicators do -- listen to the needs behind their assertions and empathize.
For now, if you want to be an effective and master communicator, when you perceive that your intended message was not correctly received, ask for a reflection and restate your message using clearer words.
Always remember: any message that can be misunderstood will be misunderstood. And of all the messages that can be misunderstood, the most important and crucial message will be misunderstood at the worst possible moment and will cause the greatest amount of damage. You will succeed in your communications!
To illustrate, sometime ago, my sister was about sending a young girl to go help her buy some stuffs, I also took that opportunity to ask the girl to help me buy a detergent, too. She returned with two detergents instead of one. She said I asked her to buy two. Obviously, she mistook my "too" to mean "two detergents."
Furthermore, master communicators are also acutely aware of the fact that a misunderstanding of the intended message could be disastrous. In fact, it could lead to deaths. That is why I have adapted one of Murphy's Laws to communication. Here is it...
Any message that can be misunderstood will be misunderstood. Of all the messages that can be misunderstood, the most important and crucial message will be misunderstood at the worst possible moment and will cause the greatest amount of damage.
So, what do master communicators do when they suspect or perceive that their intended message had not been accurately received? They clearly request for a reflection, they ask for a response to ascertain that the receiver understood the message.
First, they use verbal cues in the form of questions like:
* Is that clear?
* Did you understand me?
* Did you get the message?
These will illicit response such as "Yes." But sometimes, this kind of verbal cues and the yes response from the receiver isn't just enough to make you confident that your intended message was truly understood. This is when you ask for a reflection.
By asking for a reflection, you're asking the receiver to restate in his or her own words what they heard you say. This will then offer you the opportunity to correct any misunderstanding noticed in their reflection using clearer words to restate your message effectively.
Let's use the previous illustration as example:
"Mary, please help me get a detergent, too."
Sensing that my intended message was not accurately received, I would ask for a reflection, "Mary, please can you tell me what I asked you to buy for me?"
And let's assume Mary replied, "You say I should help you buy two pieces of detergents." This is a confirmation of my suspicion that my intended message was not truly received.
Now when people hear reflections that confirm their suspicion that their message was not accurately received, it's natural and common for them to respond in attacking style (especially in relationships) thus...
* "I knew it! You don't pay attention when I talk to you!!"
* "I knew you didn't understand me."
* "You're wrong! What were you thinking?"
Assertions like these are poor ways to communicate, it strangles communication. When you react this way, the other person may feel guilty or ashamed and you're not likely to illicit cooperation or get sincere response from a guilty person.
Conversely, master communicators don't react in such a non-flexible way. They take 100% responsibility for the result of their communication. They are very careful about the words they choose to use. Instead of judging, yelling, and labeling the other person, they are grateful for the feedback and would then go this way:
"John, thank you for letting me know what you heard. It is obvious I didn't make myself clear enough for you to understand. Let me give it another try."
Now, what if the other person reacts to your request for a reflection in a rude manner by making assertions like:
* "I heard you, I'm not deaf."
* "You think I'm a fool?"
* "Are you saying I'm stupid not to have understood you?"
What do you do?
First, as they say, prevention is better than cure. You can prevent this kind of reaction upfront before asking for a reflection by assuring the other person that you're not testing their intelligence or listening skills, but want to ensure you express your message clearly to avoid problems that could arise from misunderstanding your intended message.
But if it did happen that the other person reacts to your request for a reflection rudely or sarcastically, then you do what master communicators do -- listen to the needs behind their assertions and empathize.
For now, if you want to be an effective and master communicator, when you perceive that your intended message was not correctly received, ask for a reflection and restate your message using clearer words.
Always remember: any message that can be misunderstood will be misunderstood. And of all the messages that can be misunderstood, the most important and crucial message will be misunderstood at the worst possible moment and will cause the greatest amount of damage. You will succeed in your communications!
Life is a Decision
Yesterday, I had to report for jury duty. It turned out I knew the family of the defendant, so I wasn't picked, but that is fine with me! It made me think though about decisions and how they affect our life. It seems that if life is good, then you have made good decisions and if life is not, well then, you haven't.
The concept that life is a decision is not a new one to me. I have thought this for a long time, but recently, it has really been making an impact on me and my life. We make decisions everyday, just about every minute. The results of those decisions are what our life looks like. If we decide to be happy, we are. If we decide to let ourselves be angry, we are. The point is, our lives are the result of our decisions. Let me give you an example.
This morning I woke up happy and ready to go. I was behind in my work because of being gone all day yesterday. I knew I had a lot to do and I was trying to get an early start. Something came up and I started to be upset about it. I thought about making decisions and I consciously decided not to let this situation get to me. It took a few minutes, but I soon was not bothered by it.
I know you may be thinking that it isn't that easy. Yes, it is. I understand that deeply ingrained emotions are hard to control, I still struggle with anger, but you can decide. Whatever is upsetting you or making your life unhappy, simply decide to not let it bother you, or decide to do something different. You may have to repeat the decision over and over to yourself, but it can be done. The more you get used to this process, the easier it becomes.
Do you want to feel like your life is good? Then decide that it is. No, I don't mean that you decide that as soon as you win the lottery life will be good. I mean decide that right where you are, no matter the situation, life is good. The roof of your house caved in? Life is good. The transmission in your car fell out on the driveway? Life is good! You see, the decision that life is good is not determined by the situation, but by your attitude. I have seen people that were in situations that I would never want to be in and their attitude was much better than mine.
Life is a decision. You decide if it is good or not. You decide if you are happy or not. You may think that you did not decide to be unhappy, but you did. You may say that you are unhappy because you live in war torn Slobovia. There are happy people living in Slobovia, you just decided not to be one of them! Start to day to decide the life you want. Do not wait until things are good. Decide now when they may not be so good. They will improve immediately. Do it now!
The concept that life is a decision is not a new one to me. I have thought this for a long time, but recently, it has really been making an impact on me and my life. We make decisions everyday, just about every minute. The results of those decisions are what our life looks like. If we decide to be happy, we are. If we decide to let ourselves be angry, we are. The point is, our lives are the result of our decisions. Let me give you an example.
This morning I woke up happy and ready to go. I was behind in my work because of being gone all day yesterday. I knew I had a lot to do and I was trying to get an early start. Something came up and I started to be upset about it. I thought about making decisions and I consciously decided not to let this situation get to me. It took a few minutes, but I soon was not bothered by it.
I know you may be thinking that it isn't that easy. Yes, it is. I understand that deeply ingrained emotions are hard to control, I still struggle with anger, but you can decide. Whatever is upsetting you or making your life unhappy, simply decide to not let it bother you, or decide to do something different. You may have to repeat the decision over and over to yourself, but it can be done. The more you get used to this process, the easier it becomes.
Do you want to feel like your life is good? Then decide that it is. No, I don't mean that you decide that as soon as you win the lottery life will be good. I mean decide that right where you are, no matter the situation, life is good. The roof of your house caved in? Life is good. The transmission in your car fell out on the driveway? Life is good! You see, the decision that life is good is not determined by the situation, but by your attitude. I have seen people that were in situations that I would never want to be in and their attitude was much better than mine.
Life is a decision. You decide if it is good or not. You decide if you are happy or not. You may think that you did not decide to be unhappy, but you did. You may say that you are unhappy because you live in war torn Slobovia. There are happy people living in Slobovia, you just decided not to be one of them! Start to day to decide the life you want. Do not wait until things are good. Decide now when they may not be so good. They will improve immediately. Do it now!
Ways of Coping With Loneliness
Feeling lonely is a very common condition and may be easily solved if it is only felt occasionally. However, if it is a long term problem, it has the potential to develop into depression or other mood disorders. Therefore, it is far better to deal with the issue promptly before it becomes a serious problem.
Coping with loneliness can be dealt with, but it is not as simple as just being with other people - it goes much deeper than that.
The Root of the Problem.
If you are feeling lonely, there are two important questions that you should ask yourself about your condition. When did it start and what were the circumstances that started it?
The root causes of loneliness can lay dormant until something triggers an event, but if you feel you have a lifelong tendency to feel lonely, you should consult a professional. However, if you started to feel lonely after the death of a loved one, or after breaking up with your partner, or even if you have lost your pet, the feeling of being alone and possibly unloved is entirely natural. Time IS a great healer, although it doesn't always seem so, and sooner or later you will feel like getting out there and starting again.
You are right to mourn the death of someone, or to mourn the loss of a relationship, but you also have the right to move on and get over it when you are ready to do so.
Keep an Eye on Your Health
Loneliness can be more than just a simple problem if it begins affecting either your physical or mental health. If your feelings start to overwhelm you or cause problems with your general health or if you develop eating or sleeping disorders, it could be that you are suffering from depression. It is always a good idea to speak to your Doctor if you feel that this is the case, although pills are not always the answer.
Overcoming Loneliness
The most important point to make here is to act NOW. The first step that you could take towards overcoming loneliness is to reach out to a stranger or re-establish a relationship with an old friend, or maybe someone you used to work with. Talk to someone about your feelings, even do it via social networking sites if you feel that is best for you. (However, bear in mind that this will not solve the problem as you will require face to face interaction in the long term). Allowing yourself to to about the way you feel in a safe environment is a perfect way to start examining your issues and working towards a solution.
Help Someone Else
Coping with loneliness is a gradual process, but once you start to take action, you may be in a position to help others who are going through a similar situation. In fact this is an ideal way to improve your well being. By giving others the benefit of your kindness and support, you will not only help them, but boost your own confidence as well. Find out where there are support groups in your area and register your interest.
Coping with loneliness can be dealt with, but it is not as simple as just being with other people - it goes much deeper than that.
The Root of the Problem.
If you are feeling lonely, there are two important questions that you should ask yourself about your condition. When did it start and what were the circumstances that started it?
The root causes of loneliness can lay dormant until something triggers an event, but if you feel you have a lifelong tendency to feel lonely, you should consult a professional. However, if you started to feel lonely after the death of a loved one, or after breaking up with your partner, or even if you have lost your pet, the feeling of being alone and possibly unloved is entirely natural. Time IS a great healer, although it doesn't always seem so, and sooner or later you will feel like getting out there and starting again.
You are right to mourn the death of someone, or to mourn the loss of a relationship, but you also have the right to move on and get over it when you are ready to do so.
Keep an Eye on Your Health
Loneliness can be more than just a simple problem if it begins affecting either your physical or mental health. If your feelings start to overwhelm you or cause problems with your general health or if you develop eating or sleeping disorders, it could be that you are suffering from depression. It is always a good idea to speak to your Doctor if you feel that this is the case, although pills are not always the answer.
Overcoming Loneliness
The most important point to make here is to act NOW. The first step that you could take towards overcoming loneliness is to reach out to a stranger or re-establish a relationship with an old friend, or maybe someone you used to work with. Talk to someone about your feelings, even do it via social networking sites if you feel that is best for you. (However, bear in mind that this will not solve the problem as you will require face to face interaction in the long term). Allowing yourself to to about the way you feel in a safe environment is a perfect way to start examining your issues and working towards a solution.
Help Someone Else
Coping with loneliness is a gradual process, but once you start to take action, you may be in a position to help others who are going through a similar situation. In fact this is an ideal way to improve your well being. By giving others the benefit of your kindness and support, you will not only help them, but boost your own confidence as well. Find out where there are support groups in your area and register your interest.
Sunday, May 30, 2010
Astral Projection
We as humans are naturally curious and that inquisitive streak gets us into all sorts of wonder and exciting discoveries. Is Astral Projection real, yes and yes again. The idea is not as wired as we might think. Look at it this way lets imagine you went from a desk job in a big office building to being a researcher doing deep sea diving, or you were a janitor in a high school and you got a job digging in ancient tombs in Egypt. Wow would your reality have changed and would you have and alteration in perception, big time right within the parameters of our current reality.
So we know that many levels of reality exist not just within our own dimension but quantum physics has proved that our universe is multidimensional. Out of body experience is to then experience with awareness another dimension. In fact you do it every night in your dreams, this is just another step in our human experience.
One of my first conscious out of body experiences was in the early eighties, I was living close to downtown Sacramento, CA at the time and late one afternoon I sat in my comfortable lazy boy chair to take a nap. Just as I was beginning to relax I had this urge to leave my body through my solar plexus, my internal voice said go out through the top of your head. I felt myself rise and pop out the top of my head. I looked back at my body not all that surprised, possibly because of many years of meditation and also reading books on astral travel. My first thought was to go back east to Fall River, Mass to my school, almost instantly I started flying over the earth, I could see the ground passing swiftly below. I felt extremely exhilarated and free, what seemed like only seconds I landed in front of my grammar school. My thought was I really meant my high school but I might as well explore this while I am here.
I quickly realized the building was all locked up, and my inner voice said come on you have been doing this for thousands of years just walk through the door, it was a though in this dimension I had the memories of having done this many time before.
So I just walked through the door and it did seem quite natural, I explored the hallways and then went up stairs to the auditorium, one of the nuns was there in a gray habit, for just a moment I was afraid she would see me then I realized in my energy or what some term the astral body I could not be seen.
Once I was back out side the school I decided I would go visit a friend of mine in Chico, California. Tom and I had made a pact that if one of us got to have and out of body experience we would go visit the other. With that thought in mind I started flying back over the earth again, but some place along the way I lost concentration and I instantly popped back into my body, in fact it felt like a snap and I felt shocked to be back in my body so quickly.
After that I had three or four more spontaneous experience and then it just stopped happening, and recently I have decided to take the time to develop it and learn how to do it consciously. Because of the spontaneous experiences I know it is natural and of course can be learned.
So we know that many levels of reality exist not just within our own dimension but quantum physics has proved that our universe is multidimensional. Out of body experience is to then experience with awareness another dimension. In fact you do it every night in your dreams, this is just another step in our human experience.
One of my first conscious out of body experiences was in the early eighties, I was living close to downtown Sacramento, CA at the time and late one afternoon I sat in my comfortable lazy boy chair to take a nap. Just as I was beginning to relax I had this urge to leave my body through my solar plexus, my internal voice said go out through the top of your head. I felt myself rise and pop out the top of my head. I looked back at my body not all that surprised, possibly because of many years of meditation and also reading books on astral travel. My first thought was to go back east to Fall River, Mass to my school, almost instantly I started flying over the earth, I could see the ground passing swiftly below. I felt extremely exhilarated and free, what seemed like only seconds I landed in front of my grammar school. My thought was I really meant my high school but I might as well explore this while I am here.
I quickly realized the building was all locked up, and my inner voice said come on you have been doing this for thousands of years just walk through the door, it was a though in this dimension I had the memories of having done this many time before.
So I just walked through the door and it did seem quite natural, I explored the hallways and then went up stairs to the auditorium, one of the nuns was there in a gray habit, for just a moment I was afraid she would see me then I realized in my energy or what some term the astral body I could not be seen.
Once I was back out side the school I decided I would go visit a friend of mine in Chico, California. Tom and I had made a pact that if one of us got to have and out of body experience we would go visit the other. With that thought in mind I started flying back over the earth again, but some place along the way I lost concentration and I instantly popped back into my body, in fact it felt like a snap and I felt shocked to be back in my body so quickly.
After that I had three or four more spontaneous experience and then it just stopped happening, and recently I have decided to take the time to develop it and learn how to do it consciously. Because of the spontaneous experiences I know it is natural and of course can be learned.
Performance in Sport
Your performance in sport will be affected by many factors. The most prominent is your subconscious mind. Over the years, more attention has been directed towards the workings of the subconscious mind and how it can enhance or even at times limit performance in sport.
The mind and body are very much intertwined; in fact, everything starts in the mind. So if an athlete wishes to improve their performance, they must take the subconscious mind into account, as well as technical skills, etc. Why the subconscious mind? It's where change takes place. All our unconscious habits are stored in the subconscious mind. Change the habit and thought patterns in the subconscious mind and you will easily increase your performance. Below are three tips to help you improve your performance in sport.
Cleansing breathe
In the heat of competition or training, it is very easy to allow your mind to get tangled up with negative responses to poor results. For example, you may have just played a poor choice of shot in tennis, going down the line, when you should have gone cross court. If you're not careful, you could become caught up thinking about the lost point, over and over again, putting yourself down. There are people who are very capable of dismissing the mistake and learning from it. If you're not one of those gifted with that ability, try the following.
Imagine the bad shot (or poor result) as a gremlin of sorts (or a symbol that has meaning for you); picture it well in your mind. Now take a good deep breathe in (from your stomach), for a count of four. As you breathe out through your mouth (again for a count of four), imagine blowing that gremlin away, out into the distance, until you can't see it. You'll probably find this lifts your mood immediately and you'll be able to quickly forget the poor shot and think about the next important one.
Monitor the chatter
If we had speakers attached to the side of our heads, which allowed others to hear our internal conversations inside our minds, we'd all think each other as crazy! None the less, we chatter inside our minds all day and it's no different when playing a sport. You can't help it but you can control it.
Internal dialogue has great use when attempting to increase your performance in sport. However, it can also be detrimental. Like the athlete above who temporarily allowed negative dialogue to dominate his thoughts, we too can fall into this trap.
Instead, use powerful, helpful cue words and phrases, which when spoken inside your mind, will evoke good feelings and prepare you for what is required. Make sure they are relevant to you and your sport. They could be words like "relax", "focus", "go slow", etc.
Practice these during training and you'll find that you can easily create a bond between the cue words/ phrases and the physiological reaction you experience. This is particularly useful in sports where it is not courteous or permitted to speak aloud and when you don't have time to stop and go through a practiced routine. Learn to monitor your internal dialogue and you'll vastly increase your effectiveness. You know, researchers have even discovered that you can affect the way you listen just by adjusting your jaw; try it out next time you're talking with friends or listening to music!
Be body wise
I gave the ridiculous example above of having speakers at the side of our heads but actually, this isn't ridiculous at all. Next time you compete become consciously aware of your opponents' body language. Their inner thoughts are being transmitted through their body. Even those that are able to seemingly control their emotions will be leaking information, which you can use to your advantage.
However, as much as they leak information, so do you. However, that's ok, you just need to ensure you leak positive information. Become aware of your posture as you're reading this. Are you seated or stood up? If seated, are you slouched? Are your shoulders hunched? Do you have a frown on your face? Is your chest lifted or sunken? What's your jaw-line like? Are you gritting your teeth? When you walk, do you walk with purpose, or just shuffle along? Now put a smile on your face.
By now, you're probably very conscious of your body language and may have made adjustments. How did you feel when you did that? No doubt it changed your mood. Adopt positive, body language and it will affect your thoughts, which in turn affects your body, etc.
So, increasing performance in sport isn't all physical. A very high percentage is how you use your mind to get the results you want and desire.
Chris Thomas of You Too - Mindbody Fitness, is a Sports Mind Coach who uses powerful techniques to help people change unwanted subconscious behaviours and rid themselves of limiting beliefs & decisions that prevent them from achieving their goals in life.
The techniques used work on a deep subconscious level, thus the changes become a part of their new resourceful behaviour. Whether you are involved in sport, business or wanting to improve your personal effectiveness, Sports Mind Coaching will help you get the results you desire and deserve.
Chris also runs workshops on various topics. Some topics covered are: Presentations/ Working with Groups, Control Stress, Motivation, Confidence.
The mind and body are very much intertwined; in fact, everything starts in the mind. So if an athlete wishes to improve their performance, they must take the subconscious mind into account, as well as technical skills, etc. Why the subconscious mind? It's where change takes place. All our unconscious habits are stored in the subconscious mind. Change the habit and thought patterns in the subconscious mind and you will easily increase your performance. Below are three tips to help you improve your performance in sport.
Cleansing breathe
In the heat of competition or training, it is very easy to allow your mind to get tangled up with negative responses to poor results. For example, you may have just played a poor choice of shot in tennis, going down the line, when you should have gone cross court. If you're not careful, you could become caught up thinking about the lost point, over and over again, putting yourself down. There are people who are very capable of dismissing the mistake and learning from it. If you're not one of those gifted with that ability, try the following.
Imagine the bad shot (or poor result) as a gremlin of sorts (or a symbol that has meaning for you); picture it well in your mind. Now take a good deep breathe in (from your stomach), for a count of four. As you breathe out through your mouth (again for a count of four), imagine blowing that gremlin away, out into the distance, until you can't see it. You'll probably find this lifts your mood immediately and you'll be able to quickly forget the poor shot and think about the next important one.
Monitor the chatter
If we had speakers attached to the side of our heads, which allowed others to hear our internal conversations inside our minds, we'd all think each other as crazy! None the less, we chatter inside our minds all day and it's no different when playing a sport. You can't help it but you can control it.
Internal dialogue has great use when attempting to increase your performance in sport. However, it can also be detrimental. Like the athlete above who temporarily allowed negative dialogue to dominate his thoughts, we too can fall into this trap.
Instead, use powerful, helpful cue words and phrases, which when spoken inside your mind, will evoke good feelings and prepare you for what is required. Make sure they are relevant to you and your sport. They could be words like "relax", "focus", "go slow", etc.
Practice these during training and you'll find that you can easily create a bond between the cue words/ phrases and the physiological reaction you experience. This is particularly useful in sports where it is not courteous or permitted to speak aloud and when you don't have time to stop and go through a practiced routine. Learn to monitor your internal dialogue and you'll vastly increase your effectiveness. You know, researchers have even discovered that you can affect the way you listen just by adjusting your jaw; try it out next time you're talking with friends or listening to music!
Be body wise
I gave the ridiculous example above of having speakers at the side of our heads but actually, this isn't ridiculous at all. Next time you compete become consciously aware of your opponents' body language. Their inner thoughts are being transmitted through their body. Even those that are able to seemingly control their emotions will be leaking information, which you can use to your advantage.
However, as much as they leak information, so do you. However, that's ok, you just need to ensure you leak positive information. Become aware of your posture as you're reading this. Are you seated or stood up? If seated, are you slouched? Are your shoulders hunched? Do you have a frown on your face? Is your chest lifted or sunken? What's your jaw-line like? Are you gritting your teeth? When you walk, do you walk with purpose, or just shuffle along? Now put a smile on your face.
By now, you're probably very conscious of your body language and may have made adjustments. How did you feel when you did that? No doubt it changed your mood. Adopt positive, body language and it will affect your thoughts, which in turn affects your body, etc.
So, increasing performance in sport isn't all physical. A very high percentage is how you use your mind to get the results you want and desire.
Chris Thomas of You Too - Mindbody Fitness, is a Sports Mind Coach who uses powerful techniques to help people change unwanted subconscious behaviours and rid themselves of limiting beliefs & decisions that prevent them from achieving their goals in life.
The techniques used work on a deep subconscious level, thus the changes become a part of their new resourceful behaviour. Whether you are involved in sport, business or wanting to improve your personal effectiveness, Sports Mind Coaching will help you get the results you desire and deserve.
Chris also runs workshops on various topics. Some topics covered are: Presentations/ Working with Groups, Control Stress, Motivation, Confidence.
Learn How by Using Your Mind Skills
I See What You're Saying
The premise here is that when we communicate, the words we use in conversation actually amounts to about 40% of all the information that is actually being conveyed. The rest is all non-verbal communication. By using our awareness and developing our abilities of perceptual acuity, we can actually train ourselves to perceive and register minute details of other people that we interact with. We can learn how to see the facial tics, hear the pauses, watch the eye movement, pupil dilation, changes of skin color, nods, shrugs, micro-expressions that last for tenths of a second, among many other "tells" that most people are largely unaware of doing, and we almost never see. What looks like ESP or mind-reading is actually doing "a read" on someone's non-verbal communication. The trick is in knowing how to elicit and observe these signals so that they are meaningful to us.
The Set Up of the Exercise
To create an exercise for expanding one's perceptual acuity, use a regular deck of playing cards. By using cards in an experimental and playful setting, we can create an impersonal context or environment where micro-expressions may be elicited, observed and used in "guessing" a target card. The task of the "mind reader" is to try to observe any cues that give away the identity of the card as they mention the various attributes of the deck. The task of the subject is not to mask, thwart or otherwise deliberately misdirect the attempts of the reader to pick out genuine micro-expressions of the face and body. They should strive to be sincere, and open. The objective of the subject is to mentally project a clear thought, in this case, the card that they selected. There is no competition or testing. It's merely a skill-developing exercise, comparable to practicing scales on a piano.
Pick A Card. No, Not That One!
Spread a deck of cards so that you cannot see the face of the cards. Have your subject select a card. Be sure that they get a good look at it. Direct your subject to say the card, silently to himself. Encourage him to shout it silently to himself. Tell him to picture the card. They should keep their eyes open but they can still see the card in their mind's eye. Have him expand it to the size of a poster, or a painting in a museum, or even to the size of a billboard. Get him to blow it up big, really BIG. Silently bellow out that card, turn it into a cheer! Shout it, silently in his mind and make the colors and the details of the card brighter, more vivid. The idea here is to really get an amplified experience of that card.
As they hold that impression of the card, begin to talk about the choices you could make about the attributes of the card that was selected. Speak aloud as to whether it's a red card or a black card. Be sure they hear what you're saying and look for any betraying signal, twitch or sign when you say those identifying attributes. When you say, for instance, "It could be red or perhaps it is black", they may actually look down or their pupils might dilate when you say the attribute that matches the card. Or they might pause their breath or eye blink rate for a beat longer. Keep repeating variations of that choice until you think you see an unconscious signal. Then when you make your choice of which color it is, ask him directly if your choice is correct. Was it a red card? Then proceed with other paired and opposing card attributes. A number card or a face card? Odd or even, male or female? Clubs or spades if it's black, hearts or diamonds if it's red, high numbered or low numbered. Don't just say " red or black ". Work it into a sentence, make it part of a conversation and be sure to look for those signals each time you mention both attributes and pick the one that seems to get an unconscious response. Declare your choice and get a confirmation before moving on to the next set of choices.
If you're unsure which of the paired opposite attributes is getting a response, keep working it until you get something. Keep narrowing down the remaining card attributes until the only remaining possibility is the target card. The signals vary widely from person to person but once established for a given person, the signals tend to be consistent. Don't tell them yet what their giveaway is if you want to continue this exercise with this person. Once you tell them, it will be irresistible for them to edit their responses, even if they do it unconsciously.
As a scientific experiment, this protocol is quite flawed. But as an exercise, it is fun to do and you will learn a few things after having done it. If you are consistently getting better than half of them correct, you're succeeding better than if by chance. Doing more exercises of this type can help increase one's perceptual acuity, not to mention one's confidence in communicating. Skills like these can be developed and used to help hypnotists, magicians, and NLP practitioners alike. Using these skills will make you appear to be a mind-reader.
The premise here is that when we communicate, the words we use in conversation actually amounts to about 40% of all the information that is actually being conveyed. The rest is all non-verbal communication. By using our awareness and developing our abilities of perceptual acuity, we can actually train ourselves to perceive and register minute details of other people that we interact with. We can learn how to see the facial tics, hear the pauses, watch the eye movement, pupil dilation, changes of skin color, nods, shrugs, micro-expressions that last for tenths of a second, among many other "tells" that most people are largely unaware of doing, and we almost never see. What looks like ESP or mind-reading is actually doing "a read" on someone's non-verbal communication. The trick is in knowing how to elicit and observe these signals so that they are meaningful to us.
The Set Up of the Exercise
To create an exercise for expanding one's perceptual acuity, use a regular deck of playing cards. By using cards in an experimental and playful setting, we can create an impersonal context or environment where micro-expressions may be elicited, observed and used in "guessing" a target card. The task of the "mind reader" is to try to observe any cues that give away the identity of the card as they mention the various attributes of the deck. The task of the subject is not to mask, thwart or otherwise deliberately misdirect the attempts of the reader to pick out genuine micro-expressions of the face and body. They should strive to be sincere, and open. The objective of the subject is to mentally project a clear thought, in this case, the card that they selected. There is no competition or testing. It's merely a skill-developing exercise, comparable to practicing scales on a piano.
Pick A Card. No, Not That One!
Spread a deck of cards so that you cannot see the face of the cards. Have your subject select a card. Be sure that they get a good look at it. Direct your subject to say the card, silently to himself. Encourage him to shout it silently to himself. Tell him to picture the card. They should keep their eyes open but they can still see the card in their mind's eye. Have him expand it to the size of a poster, or a painting in a museum, or even to the size of a billboard. Get him to blow it up big, really BIG. Silently bellow out that card, turn it into a cheer! Shout it, silently in his mind and make the colors and the details of the card brighter, more vivid. The idea here is to really get an amplified experience of that card.
As they hold that impression of the card, begin to talk about the choices you could make about the attributes of the card that was selected. Speak aloud as to whether it's a red card or a black card. Be sure they hear what you're saying and look for any betraying signal, twitch or sign when you say those identifying attributes. When you say, for instance, "It could be red or perhaps it is black", they may actually look down or their pupils might dilate when you say the attribute that matches the card. Or they might pause their breath or eye blink rate for a beat longer. Keep repeating variations of that choice until you think you see an unconscious signal. Then when you make your choice of which color it is, ask him directly if your choice is correct. Was it a red card? Then proceed with other paired and opposing card attributes. A number card or a face card? Odd or even, male or female? Clubs or spades if it's black, hearts or diamonds if it's red, high numbered or low numbered. Don't just say " red or black ". Work it into a sentence, make it part of a conversation and be sure to look for those signals each time you mention both attributes and pick the one that seems to get an unconscious response. Declare your choice and get a confirmation before moving on to the next set of choices.
If you're unsure which of the paired opposite attributes is getting a response, keep working it until you get something. Keep narrowing down the remaining card attributes until the only remaining possibility is the target card. The signals vary widely from person to person but once established for a given person, the signals tend to be consistent. Don't tell them yet what their giveaway is if you want to continue this exercise with this person. Once you tell them, it will be irresistible for them to edit their responses, even if they do it unconsciously.
As a scientific experiment, this protocol is quite flawed. But as an exercise, it is fun to do and you will learn a few things after having done it. If you are consistently getting better than half of them correct, you're succeeding better than if by chance. Doing more exercises of this type can help increase one's perceptual acuity, not to mention one's confidence in communicating. Skills like these can be developed and used to help hypnotists, magicians, and NLP practitioners alike. Using these skills will make you appear to be a mind-reader.
Guide For Attaining Erotic Mind Control
The mind is the main controlling organ for any human activity. Every bodily function must have instruction emanating from the brain in order to enforce any activity. It is very important for a person to maintain a good lifestyle in order to have better brain functions. There are so many methods and techniques used to help the mind transform for better functionality. Self development practices up holds the use of drugs or technology to aid the mind to learn and development new thought patterns. One area technology can be used in brain transformation is attaining erotic mind control. There are many individuals and couples who have sexual dysfunction problems. Training the mind to release sexual impulses in sexual activities can help individual express feelings and love more liberally.
There are many ways an individual can use to attain erotic mind control. One of the conventional ways is the use of stimuli drugs. Prescribed drugs from qualified physicians should be sought at all times. Reports of drug misuse are rampantly heard; the misuse of these drugs often results in other unpleasing after effect that might not have been initially intended. Erotic drugs are often administered for immediate results. An individual is likely to have increased sexual arousal some moments after taking a sex stimulating drug; the effect from this subsides after a day or two. For individuals who are concerned about the after-effects, then drugs that are free from side effects such as insomnia and anxiety should be consumed.
The use of brainwave technology is one recommended therapy for erotic mind control. The brainwave entrainment works in unison with the brain frequency waves in order to send affirmation signals to the subconscious mind. These sounds cannot be understood by the conscious mind. These sounds are only deciphered in the preconscious mind state. Erotic messages are delivered to the subconscious with the aim of making it learn or undo past sexual experiences. The result of this is regained vitality and vigor towards sexual expressions. The use of brainwave entrainment have no known side effects or after effect. This therapy is a 100 per cent effective. The fact that it does not need any instructor or guide while in the act of self brain induction makes it a perfect remedy for any individual.
Brainwave entrainment products are easily accessible in the internet. There are many self development experts who have displayed products and information relating to brainwave entrainment products. Most of these products are offered as MP3 download for a small fee. One can order this through e-payment systems displayed on theses sites. It's however recommended to an individual to first shortlist the quality information before settling for any product. Most sites will have a free download portal for sampling purposes. It is very important for an individual to sample these products before ordering them. The best erotic mind control brainwave entrainment products are delivered in a package full of other brainwave information. One can also order a specific brainwave product rather than a batch of it.
There are many ways an individual can use to attain erotic mind control. One of the conventional ways is the use of stimuli drugs. Prescribed drugs from qualified physicians should be sought at all times. Reports of drug misuse are rampantly heard; the misuse of these drugs often results in other unpleasing after effect that might not have been initially intended. Erotic drugs are often administered for immediate results. An individual is likely to have increased sexual arousal some moments after taking a sex stimulating drug; the effect from this subsides after a day or two. For individuals who are concerned about the after-effects, then drugs that are free from side effects such as insomnia and anxiety should be consumed.
The use of brainwave technology is one recommended therapy for erotic mind control. The brainwave entrainment works in unison with the brain frequency waves in order to send affirmation signals to the subconscious mind. These sounds cannot be understood by the conscious mind. These sounds are only deciphered in the preconscious mind state. Erotic messages are delivered to the subconscious with the aim of making it learn or undo past sexual experiences. The result of this is regained vitality and vigor towards sexual expressions. The use of brainwave entrainment have no known side effects or after effect. This therapy is a 100 per cent effective. The fact that it does not need any instructor or guide while in the act of self brain induction makes it a perfect remedy for any individual.
Brainwave entrainment products are easily accessible in the internet. There are many self development experts who have displayed products and information relating to brainwave entrainment products. Most of these products are offered as MP3 download for a small fee. One can order this through e-payment systems displayed on theses sites. It's however recommended to an individual to first shortlist the quality information before settling for any product. Most sites will have a free download portal for sampling purposes. It is very important for an individual to sample these products before ordering them. The best erotic mind control brainwave entrainment products are delivered in a package full of other brainwave information. One can also order a specific brainwave product rather than a batch of it.
How to Maintain and Improve Your Intelligence!
How do we Maintain and Improve our Intelligence/
Thinking about this, how should we do it?
By eating beluga caviar!... said a young mum who is feeding her toddler with it. Ok, that maybe works. What else?
By having great sex!... said a friend of mine being very much in love these days... That, hmm, I believe, is rather very healthy and very pleasurable! It may work, too!
How else? ... by making use of our brains and constantly learning!
Exactly!
Intelligence is something that we have, it is innate, we are all born with it, and as surprisingly as it may appear for some people - in some cases, some people are more intelligent at birth than throughout their life... but, that is another topic.
So, intelligence is something very close to our brains and mind. Many times the three of them are being combined or referred to as ONE and the same. I am not going to discuss the native intelligence that we bring into the world at the moment of our birth, I am merely going to refer to that intelligence that we use to conduct ourselves in the societies that we live in and in the world in general... many times we call this being smart.
First of all, we increase what we have brought into the world by becoming human beings and just a little bit latter after that, by becoming persons. We develop skills and habits and we learn all kinds of stuff.
Learning is a very complex process, with many facets. We learn as we grow up due to our basic need to survive and therefore understand the environment we land in. We need to! We must understand the other people who are interacting with us and improve the responses we give.
Depending on the country we are born into, we learn a certain language to communicate with our fellow countryman. After that we go to school and there, using the maternal-language, we learn more. We may even learn other languages. Not long after we join school, we finish it, and with it we finish learning. At this point most of us are done with learning. No more! That was it!
School is off, and so it is learning! Right!
Yes, right! But, wrong!
I mean "off with learning" is wrong. And, lets be honest here, not many people lean in school. They learn something, a lot of general knowledge, but most of it is poorly or, lets say, mediocre absorbed.
Many people consider that a job is needed and... that is about it! Life is settled! How wrong is this?
Even if you get a job, right after you finish school, you still have to learn to do your job right, and if you are the ambitious type you must learn in order to "move up in the world", as they say.
Let us define here what is it that I mean by "learning"?
When I say "learning" I am referring to that process we use to develop our skills, our habits, that improves and completes our education and enriches the quality of our life. That is what I mean by "learning."
No matter what you learn, you are keeping your intelligence and may even improve it. Our brains are spectacular pieces of divine engineering and while learning and keeping an open perspective on things, you also work your brain.
While working your brain you produce brain wave activity. Brain wave activity means new neural pathways. New neural pathways means a more comprehensive approach on life and reality. Also, an improved response to whatever surrounds you.
That is, in other words, intelligence in action. It is also keeping and improving your intelligence by constantly learning and therefore by using your brain frequently. The reason we have the brain is to use it. Without use, our brains tends to ossify.
However, you need to keep an open mind and a childlike curiosity... throughout your life.
Of course, you need to use your brain and keep on learning.
Thinking about this, how should we do it?
By eating beluga caviar!... said a young mum who is feeding her toddler with it. Ok, that maybe works. What else?
By having great sex!... said a friend of mine being very much in love these days... That, hmm, I believe, is rather very healthy and very pleasurable! It may work, too!
How else? ... by making use of our brains and constantly learning!
Exactly!
Intelligence is something that we have, it is innate, we are all born with it, and as surprisingly as it may appear for some people - in some cases, some people are more intelligent at birth than throughout their life... but, that is another topic.
So, intelligence is something very close to our brains and mind. Many times the three of them are being combined or referred to as ONE and the same. I am not going to discuss the native intelligence that we bring into the world at the moment of our birth, I am merely going to refer to that intelligence that we use to conduct ourselves in the societies that we live in and in the world in general... many times we call this being smart.
First of all, we increase what we have brought into the world by becoming human beings and just a little bit latter after that, by becoming persons. We develop skills and habits and we learn all kinds of stuff.
Learning is a very complex process, with many facets. We learn as we grow up due to our basic need to survive and therefore understand the environment we land in. We need to! We must understand the other people who are interacting with us and improve the responses we give.
Depending on the country we are born into, we learn a certain language to communicate with our fellow countryman. After that we go to school and there, using the maternal-language, we learn more. We may even learn other languages. Not long after we join school, we finish it, and with it we finish learning. At this point most of us are done with learning. No more! That was it!
School is off, and so it is learning! Right!
Yes, right! But, wrong!
I mean "off with learning" is wrong. And, lets be honest here, not many people lean in school. They learn something, a lot of general knowledge, but most of it is poorly or, lets say, mediocre absorbed.
Many people consider that a job is needed and... that is about it! Life is settled! How wrong is this?
Even if you get a job, right after you finish school, you still have to learn to do your job right, and if you are the ambitious type you must learn in order to "move up in the world", as they say.
Let us define here what is it that I mean by "learning"?
When I say "learning" I am referring to that process we use to develop our skills, our habits, that improves and completes our education and enriches the quality of our life. That is what I mean by "learning."
No matter what you learn, you are keeping your intelligence and may even improve it. Our brains are spectacular pieces of divine engineering and while learning and keeping an open perspective on things, you also work your brain.
While working your brain you produce brain wave activity. Brain wave activity means new neural pathways. New neural pathways means a more comprehensive approach on life and reality. Also, an improved response to whatever surrounds you.
That is, in other words, intelligence in action. It is also keeping and improving your intelligence by constantly learning and therefore by using your brain frequently. The reason we have the brain is to use it. Without use, our brains tends to ossify.
However, you need to keep an open mind and a childlike curiosity... throughout your life.
Of course, you need to use your brain and keep on learning.
How to Convince People to Change Their Minds
Learning how to convince people to change their minds can be tough, especially if you're dealing with a jaded lot. Some people don't like to make the effort to change. Others just think that they're better off continuing what they're doing now.
However, there are ways to get around their shields - ways to get them to take on a different point of view or to change their behavior. Read on to find out how to convince people to change their minds.
Persuasion Tip # 1: Make Use of Adages.
Change is the only constant thing in this world. True. By reciting this adage, among others, to the people you're supposed to convince of change, you're practically delivering universal truths.
People who are less adamant about the concept of change are also typically the people who are easily swayed by public opinion. They are the crowd who likes the status quo (hence their refusal to change). But what if the status quo is to change? Make them believe that, and they'll change their colors soon enough.
Persuasion Tip # 2: Show Them the Benefits.
An effective way on how to convince people to change their minds is by helping them weigh the pros and cons of changing. One of the cons could be that they'll have to step out of their comfort zone. However, you should immediately counter that with a pro by saying that the greatest of men have had to venture out into the unknown before they became who they are today.
The cons represent the set of beliefs they hold about change right now, while the pros are your opportunities to get inside their head. Obviously, there should be more emphasis on the pros than the cons; or else, you lose the argument.
Persuasion Tip # 3: Exaggerate the Consequences.
When trying to convince people to change their minds, a little bit of intimidation can go a long way. For example, if you're trying to convince your teenage nephew to stop smoking, telling him about the benefits of changing might not be enough.
In that case, you'll have to focus on the consequences of smoking itself. They are gruesome, of course. Lung cancer, rotting teeth, breathing difficulties, etc. Putting an emphasis on these grim and unpleasant conditions might scare him enough to stop smoking as soon as he can.
Learning how to convince people to change their minds can prove to be quite useful in everyday life. Of course, with knowledge comes responsibility as well. Don't use your powers of persuasion to harm other people. Instead, use it to help them better their lives.
However, there are ways to get around their shields - ways to get them to take on a different point of view or to change their behavior. Read on to find out how to convince people to change their minds.
Persuasion Tip # 1: Make Use of Adages.
Change is the only constant thing in this world. True. By reciting this adage, among others, to the people you're supposed to convince of change, you're practically delivering universal truths.
People who are less adamant about the concept of change are also typically the people who are easily swayed by public opinion. They are the crowd who likes the status quo (hence their refusal to change). But what if the status quo is to change? Make them believe that, and they'll change their colors soon enough.
Persuasion Tip # 2: Show Them the Benefits.
An effective way on how to convince people to change their minds is by helping them weigh the pros and cons of changing. One of the cons could be that they'll have to step out of their comfort zone. However, you should immediately counter that with a pro by saying that the greatest of men have had to venture out into the unknown before they became who they are today.
The cons represent the set of beliefs they hold about change right now, while the pros are your opportunities to get inside their head. Obviously, there should be more emphasis on the pros than the cons; or else, you lose the argument.
Persuasion Tip # 3: Exaggerate the Consequences.
When trying to convince people to change their minds, a little bit of intimidation can go a long way. For example, if you're trying to convince your teenage nephew to stop smoking, telling him about the benefits of changing might not be enough.
In that case, you'll have to focus on the consequences of smoking itself. They are gruesome, of course. Lung cancer, rotting teeth, breathing difficulties, etc. Putting an emphasis on these grim and unpleasant conditions might scare him enough to stop smoking as soon as he can.
Learning how to convince people to change their minds can prove to be quite useful in everyday life. Of course, with knowledge comes responsibility as well. Don't use your powers of persuasion to harm other people. Instead, use it to help them better their lives.
The Logic of Emotional Maturity
The study of emotional maturity or intelligence is relatively new in the field of psychology. The measuring factors differ greatly among the experts as emotional maturity is not measured on one scale that fits all.
Studies in this area are on the increase as more professionals are becoming interested as the results of this type of study are proving to be very beneficial. In the study both cognition and intelligence are two distinct components. When a person's IQ is measured it is done using the cognitive capacity which is generally a constant reading. The IQ measurement can be improved at any time. However, it is subject to the constant value that is the Intellectual Quotient. This means most IQ levels remain consistent over a lifetime.
It is not unusual for the IQ to change within a couple of points; however this change is often a developmental factor or taking into account margins of error when the test is given. Emotional Intelligence falls into a whole other category. From one moment to the next emotions change very quickly. Depending on the matter at hand and the subject being tested. Since everyone reacts differently in any situation there are no parameters set in stone. Emotions can often be very inconsistent.
The range of emotions varies with each person. Because of this difference it is logically difficult to measure fully. The demarcation line between intelligence and knowledge is blurred. Most studies reveal that emotional intelligence changes depending on the person and the condition they are presented with. Thus findings show it can be decreased, increased or be fairly non-existent. Some experts believe emotional maturity is stable and is unaffected to outside conditions. All studies however reveal that emotions are developed rather than instilled at childbirth. There is no evidence to prove that emotions are part of our genetic makeup. They largely develop as we mature and gain experience in life situations.
Due to very specific stimuli do our emotions begin to develop. This maturity is best defined as our ability to become sensitive to our environment and the people we interact with. Our perceived emotions allow us the ability to control situations and create solutions. This emotional maturity is also known as having a sense of self.
Emotions are what equip us with the ability to think things through. In the end the definitions are numerous. Like other aspects of intelligence, there is a broad spectrum. Like test that measure intelligence quotient, the score of emotional intelligence is determined and studied on individual basis.
Attitude plus aptitude equals altitude. These life altering resources, articles and FREE downloads are available for a limited time to help you identify what's holding you back from achieving all that you have dreamed. Revise your life blueprint to dramatically increase your self worth, outlook on life and net worth. By using these proven methods you'll discover how you can become the person you've always dreamed of being. You owe it to yourself to visit my self improvement guide, which also discusses emotional intelligence.
Studies in this area are on the increase as more professionals are becoming interested as the results of this type of study are proving to be very beneficial. In the study both cognition and intelligence are two distinct components. When a person's IQ is measured it is done using the cognitive capacity which is generally a constant reading. The IQ measurement can be improved at any time. However, it is subject to the constant value that is the Intellectual Quotient. This means most IQ levels remain consistent over a lifetime.
It is not unusual for the IQ to change within a couple of points; however this change is often a developmental factor or taking into account margins of error when the test is given. Emotional Intelligence falls into a whole other category. From one moment to the next emotions change very quickly. Depending on the matter at hand and the subject being tested. Since everyone reacts differently in any situation there are no parameters set in stone. Emotions can often be very inconsistent.
The range of emotions varies with each person. Because of this difference it is logically difficult to measure fully. The demarcation line between intelligence and knowledge is blurred. Most studies reveal that emotional intelligence changes depending on the person and the condition they are presented with. Thus findings show it can be decreased, increased or be fairly non-existent. Some experts believe emotional maturity is stable and is unaffected to outside conditions. All studies however reveal that emotions are developed rather than instilled at childbirth. There is no evidence to prove that emotions are part of our genetic makeup. They largely develop as we mature and gain experience in life situations.
Due to very specific stimuli do our emotions begin to develop. This maturity is best defined as our ability to become sensitive to our environment and the people we interact with. Our perceived emotions allow us the ability to control situations and create solutions. This emotional maturity is also known as having a sense of self.
Emotions are what equip us with the ability to think things through. In the end the definitions are numerous. Like other aspects of intelligence, there is a broad spectrum. Like test that measure intelligence quotient, the score of emotional intelligence is determined and studied on individual basis.
Attitude plus aptitude equals altitude. These life altering resources, articles and FREE downloads are available for a limited time to help you identify what's holding you back from achieving all that you have dreamed. Revise your life blueprint to dramatically increase your self worth, outlook on life and net worth. By using these proven methods you'll discover how you can become the person you've always dreamed of being. You owe it to yourself to visit my self improvement guide, which also discusses emotional intelligence.
How to Improve Your Brain Power
Your brain is like any muscle on your body. Use it often and will stay strong and healthy. Therefore, it is essential that you keep using your brain in different ways. Below are some activities that you can engage in to keep your brain in great condition.
Try learning a new foreign language. This will strengthen the part of your brain that processes language.
Develop your inner awareness and tap into your subconscious mind to access its unlimited potential. Connect to your subconscious mind through meditation and focusing on your breath.
Exercise! Create a regimen for regular exercise. There is a strong correlation between a healthy body and healthy mind. Start with something simple, like a 20 minutes jog. Exercise also improves the amount of oxygen you supply to your brain.
Be curious about what goes on around you. Ask questions all the time. Develop an insatiable curiosity. Carry a notebook with you to jot down any questions you may have during the day. If you cannot find anyone with the answer, go online to search for the answer until you are find what you need to know.
Learn widely and look beyond your current sphere of knowledge. For example, you can watch TV or cable channels that you normally do not watch or read magazines or books that are not of the usual genre you would select.
Improve your focus. Select a task and concentrate on working on it for 20 minutes straight. Give you full attention and focus to it.
Learn something new each day. A word, a fact or tip. Flip to a random page on a book. Browse a random page on Wikipedia. As you habituate this, increase the number of things you plan to learn daily from 5 to even 10. Take this as far as you can go.
Break your routine and do things differently. Eat something you normally do not during lunch. Drive or walk a different path. Talk to someone you normally not speak to.
Do things outside your zone of comfort once in a while. If you do not like public speaking, enroll in a Toastmasters course. If you think you cannot dance, sign up for dancing lessons.
Take on a challenging project to stretch your mind. For example, you can write a computer application, build a book shelf or organize a party.
Play intellectually stimulating games like jigsaw puzzles, crossword puzzles, trivial pursuit and chess. Play word games. Try Scrabble Boggle or crossword
Work on a difficult math problem and solve it. This will strengthen your logical mind.
Try learning a new foreign language. This will strengthen the part of your brain that processes language.
Develop your inner awareness and tap into your subconscious mind to access its unlimited potential. Connect to your subconscious mind through meditation and focusing on your breath.
Exercise! Create a regimen for regular exercise. There is a strong correlation between a healthy body and healthy mind. Start with something simple, like a 20 minutes jog. Exercise also improves the amount of oxygen you supply to your brain.
Be curious about what goes on around you. Ask questions all the time. Develop an insatiable curiosity. Carry a notebook with you to jot down any questions you may have during the day. If you cannot find anyone with the answer, go online to search for the answer until you are find what you need to know.
Learn widely and look beyond your current sphere of knowledge. For example, you can watch TV or cable channels that you normally do not watch or read magazines or books that are not of the usual genre you would select.
Improve your focus. Select a task and concentrate on working on it for 20 minutes straight. Give you full attention and focus to it.
Learn something new each day. A word, a fact or tip. Flip to a random page on a book. Browse a random page on Wikipedia. As you habituate this, increase the number of things you plan to learn daily from 5 to even 10. Take this as far as you can go.
Break your routine and do things differently. Eat something you normally do not during lunch. Drive or walk a different path. Talk to someone you normally not speak to.
Do things outside your zone of comfort once in a while. If you do not like public speaking, enroll in a Toastmasters course. If you think you cannot dance, sign up for dancing lessons.
Take on a challenging project to stretch your mind. For example, you can write a computer application, build a book shelf or organize a party.
Play intellectually stimulating games like jigsaw puzzles, crossword puzzles, trivial pursuit and chess. Play word games. Try Scrabble Boggle or crossword
Work on a difficult math problem and solve it. This will strengthen your logical mind.
How to Control Your Mind
It has been found that many people face different problems in life, bringing them mentally down. The main reason is due to lack of focus and self-management. If you can control your mind and make it discipline, then you can sure get good results. Everyone must have entered school and get educated, but we were never taught how to control your mind.
If you are still thinking how to control your mind, then try all these above steps and it's sure that it will work magic. Our mind is our best asset and in a way our mind actually works will lead us to the self-destruction, and cause unhappiness to ourselves and others or it will work miracles for all of us & keep us happy. Thus it is important to control our wandering & wanting mind for keeping lots of problems in our life far away from us. Also, there are different web sites on the yoga and the breathing exercises that is consulted to have the calm, disciplined as well as positive mind. Here are some methods that you can follow to control your mind:
Crystal Clear Goals - If you are thinking to achieve specific goals, then make a note of those or you can write it in your personal diary. This will make your more systematic and your uncreative activities will get blocked.
Try to say No - Most people have the habit to say 'Yes', even when they can't handle things to certain level. This is really a bad idea, as it can hurt someone more. Therefore, it is always better to go with the word 'No'. This word will never hurt someone; he or she can understand that you are true to your words.
Release frustrations - If you are dealing on things that are far from your reach or it is just impossible, then let it go. You need to release your frustration and focus to be positive.
Take A Deep Breath - One of the best ways to knockoff tension is by taking deep breath. This can really give you good results and you can get relaxed.
Try Brainwave Entertainment - If you really want to bring more positive energy, try Brainwave entertainment technology. This is one of the best and latest technologies to increase your mind power. You can make your sub-conscious mind sharper and relaxed. Brainwave entertainment technology will help to relieve all your stress and depression.
We need to discipline ourselves & practice these techniques that are mentioned above we then can discipline our mind & control it. When we are able to slowly control our mind, we can see difference in our self. Also, we need to be very patient to begin realizing all its benefits. Calm, disciplined as well as positive mind is a base for the happy and the healthy life. Happy you will be able to make others happy.
Brainwave Entrainment can help you in making you happy by literally transforming your mind and gear it towards a more positive outlook.
If you are still thinking how to control your mind, then try all these above steps and it's sure that it will work magic. Our mind is our best asset and in a way our mind actually works will lead us to the self-destruction, and cause unhappiness to ourselves and others or it will work miracles for all of us & keep us happy. Thus it is important to control our wandering & wanting mind for keeping lots of problems in our life far away from us. Also, there are different web sites on the yoga and the breathing exercises that is consulted to have the calm, disciplined as well as positive mind. Here are some methods that you can follow to control your mind:
Crystal Clear Goals - If you are thinking to achieve specific goals, then make a note of those or you can write it in your personal diary. This will make your more systematic and your uncreative activities will get blocked.
Try to say No - Most people have the habit to say 'Yes', even when they can't handle things to certain level. This is really a bad idea, as it can hurt someone more. Therefore, it is always better to go with the word 'No'. This word will never hurt someone; he or she can understand that you are true to your words.
Release frustrations - If you are dealing on things that are far from your reach or it is just impossible, then let it go. You need to release your frustration and focus to be positive.
Take A Deep Breath - One of the best ways to knockoff tension is by taking deep breath. This can really give you good results and you can get relaxed.
Try Brainwave Entertainment - If you really want to bring more positive energy, try Brainwave entertainment technology. This is one of the best and latest technologies to increase your mind power. You can make your sub-conscious mind sharper and relaxed. Brainwave entertainment technology will help to relieve all your stress and depression.
We need to discipline ourselves & practice these techniques that are mentioned above we then can discipline our mind & control it. When we are able to slowly control our mind, we can see difference in our self. Also, we need to be very patient to begin realizing all its benefits. Calm, disciplined as well as positive mind is a base for the happy and the healthy life. Happy you will be able to make others happy.
Brainwave Entrainment can help you in making you happy by literally transforming your mind and gear it towards a more positive outlook.
Brain Games For Adults
Brain games for adults is a bit of misnomer, if by games you mean something to pass the time, because we adults can do much more with brain games these days than pass the time.
Ever heard of neurogenesis? Neurogenesis is a term used to describe the daily growth of new neurons, which is a capacity of the human brain that no one new about until about 10-15 years ago.
Ever heard of neuroplasticity? Neuroplasticity is the term used to describe how our brains form new connections when our brains are exposed to a novel learning experience.
According to Simon Evans,Ph.D. and Paul Burghardt,Ph.D., authors of the Bible of Brain Fitness, Brainfit for Life, those new connections can be formed within minutes.
But here's the rub, those new connections must be reinforced with practice and those new neurons must be nurtured before they migrate to circuits in the brain, particularly memory circuits, where replacement parts are needed.
How Do You Nurture the Brain?
Well, Evans and Burghardt give us a model for making the brain a hospitable place for new neurons and help us reinforce the new connections between neurons formed when we experience a novel learning experience, which just might come from an adult brain game.
The brain fitness model taught by Evans and Burghardt has several components; physical exercise, nutrition including lots of omega 3 fatty acids and antioxidants, sleep, stress management, and novel learning experiences, which just might include brain games for adults.
The brain fitness writers and researchers say that the best neurogenesis and neuroplastic novel learning experiences are those which we experience when we learn a new language or a new instrument.
When it comes to brains, I am a firm believer in bigger is better, but I do not have time to regularly devote to learning a new language or a new instrument, so I was delighted to come across research in several new books which evaluates the efficacy of computerized novel learning experiences, and that experience can take the form of a brain game for adults.
Brain games for adults can take as little time as a few minutes between phone calls, or clients, or as long as one hour for forty days program put together by Michael Merzenich,Ph.D.
And the research is beginning to roll in which backs up the efficacy of brain games including the IMPACT study published in April of 2009, and the PNAS study first made public in 2008 or 2009.
The PNAS study evaluates the impact of doing a regular workout on the dual n back task, which means focusing in on a computer for 1/2 hour for 19 days, and the measuring stick on the dual n back was and IQ test.
So completing the dual n back adult brain game increases IQ? Yes it does, and you can show the results to your incredulous children, who may think that no adult brain can ever master the intricacies of electronic devices.
So there you have it, adult brain games which make possible increased neurogenesis and neuroplasticity, and do not take hours of tedious practice on the piano or language coaching.
In fact, computerized brain games for adults are so cool that I cannot get my 11 year old son to do them, which is another point in their favor as far as this 'old dawg' is concerned.
Ever heard of neurogenesis? Neurogenesis is a term used to describe the daily growth of new neurons, which is a capacity of the human brain that no one new about until about 10-15 years ago.
Ever heard of neuroplasticity? Neuroplasticity is the term used to describe how our brains form new connections when our brains are exposed to a novel learning experience.
According to Simon Evans,Ph.D. and Paul Burghardt,Ph.D., authors of the Bible of Brain Fitness, Brainfit for Life, those new connections can be formed within minutes.
But here's the rub, those new connections must be reinforced with practice and those new neurons must be nurtured before they migrate to circuits in the brain, particularly memory circuits, where replacement parts are needed.
How Do You Nurture the Brain?
Well, Evans and Burghardt give us a model for making the brain a hospitable place for new neurons and help us reinforce the new connections between neurons formed when we experience a novel learning experience, which just might come from an adult brain game.
The brain fitness model taught by Evans and Burghardt has several components; physical exercise, nutrition including lots of omega 3 fatty acids and antioxidants, sleep, stress management, and novel learning experiences, which just might include brain games for adults.
The brain fitness writers and researchers say that the best neurogenesis and neuroplastic novel learning experiences are those which we experience when we learn a new language or a new instrument.
When it comes to brains, I am a firm believer in bigger is better, but I do not have time to regularly devote to learning a new language or a new instrument, so I was delighted to come across research in several new books which evaluates the efficacy of computerized novel learning experiences, and that experience can take the form of a brain game for adults.
Brain games for adults can take as little time as a few minutes between phone calls, or clients, or as long as one hour for forty days program put together by Michael Merzenich,Ph.D.
And the research is beginning to roll in which backs up the efficacy of brain games including the IMPACT study published in April of 2009, and the PNAS study first made public in 2008 or 2009.
The PNAS study evaluates the impact of doing a regular workout on the dual n back task, which means focusing in on a computer for 1/2 hour for 19 days, and the measuring stick on the dual n back was and IQ test.
So completing the dual n back adult brain game increases IQ? Yes it does, and you can show the results to your incredulous children, who may think that no adult brain can ever master the intricacies of electronic devices.
So there you have it, adult brain games which make possible increased neurogenesis and neuroplasticity, and do not take hours of tedious practice on the piano or language coaching.
In fact, computerized brain games for adults are so cool that I cannot get my 11 year old son to do them, which is another point in their favor as far as this 'old dawg' is concerned.
How to Feel and Hear Spirit
Speaking to spirit is different from talking to your friends or next door neighbour. If you are lucky enough to see a spirit in a physical form, you will notice their method of communication is not through their mouth but through a thought pattern such as telepathy. For most people it takes a while to realise that messages you receive from spirit helpers are not part of a vivid imagination.
You will find that as your psychic senses deepen, even the thoughts of the living become something you pick up on. This is because we are all energy and energy has no concept of time or space, it 'just is'. Often people will describe how they 'just knew' their friend on the other side of the world was going through a change in their life, or they could feel a friend from school was going to contact them, even though they hadn't seen them for twenty years. Strangely, they started to think of them to find a day or so later they called.
This is picking up on the fine radio waves of subtle non-physical communication. Before this skill is developed, we describe it as a strange feeling that we can't quite put our finger on - gut feeling perhaps; but as we take more notice and start to actively develop it life becomes much easier.
Recently, during a time of moving, I found myself automatically slipping into this part of myself. I just knew the removal company wasn't going to get it quite right so I put extra clothes in the car and in drawers I knew they would not be taking. I stopped myself from putting too much of the most important things in the car because I thought I was being a little too paranoid. As it turned out, I was absolutely right. If I had fully listened, I'd have had everything I needed! The removal company did mess up and if I hadn't put the essentials in the car and the drawers, I would have been completely stuck! They took three weeks to deliver the full load of belongings. They were supposed to take one day!
There are many ways to help you to feel and hear spirit better. Methods that help you decipher real from imagined communication help you recognise your psyche's way of receiving information whether it's from spirit or your own deeper senses.
You will find that as your psychic senses deepen, even the thoughts of the living become something you pick up on. This is because we are all energy and energy has no concept of time or space, it 'just is'. Often people will describe how they 'just knew' their friend on the other side of the world was going through a change in their life, or they could feel a friend from school was going to contact them, even though they hadn't seen them for twenty years. Strangely, they started to think of them to find a day or so later they called.
This is picking up on the fine radio waves of subtle non-physical communication. Before this skill is developed, we describe it as a strange feeling that we can't quite put our finger on - gut feeling perhaps; but as we take more notice and start to actively develop it life becomes much easier.
Recently, during a time of moving, I found myself automatically slipping into this part of myself. I just knew the removal company wasn't going to get it quite right so I put extra clothes in the car and in drawers I knew they would not be taking. I stopped myself from putting too much of the most important things in the car because I thought I was being a little too paranoid. As it turned out, I was absolutely right. If I had fully listened, I'd have had everything I needed! The removal company did mess up and if I hadn't put the essentials in the car and the drawers, I would have been completely stuck! They took three weeks to deliver the full load of belongings. They were supposed to take one day!
There are many ways to help you to feel and hear spirit better. Methods that help you decipher real from imagined communication help you recognise your psyche's way of receiving information whether it's from spirit or your own deeper senses.
Easy Erotic Mind Control You Can Learn in Hours Instead of Years
Controlling someones mind can be done without doing anything other than learning to control your own body language. I know that's not the answer you were looking for but it does work. It works so well that it's taught at places that coach you on how to handle job interviews.
It is one more way of making money with mind control. You make the interviewer, and everyone else you meet, want you to be there with them. You could get a higher position and be making more money than the last guy that interviewed for the same job.
It is mind control but it's mind control of a type that doesn't take years of study and it's something you can easily learn. These aren't paranormal mind powers but just your normal, average, everyday abilities and they can be taught to you in a few hours instead of a few years.
It may seem paranormal but the reality is it's not. It's just learning to recognize all of the signals that people send out and that you send out. Just by changing your own signals you can make people see you anyway you want them to. As honest, trustworthy, open, interested, etc.
Yes, this means you can use your own body language to lie, at least for awhile. You see, when you learn how to spot different things you also learn the things you are telling others. You can lie with body language but it takes a conscious effort. At least at first. As you get better at it you won't even have to think abut it.
Did you ever instinctively trust someone? I'm sure you have. The question is why? What was there about him that made you trust them or distrust them? Obviously it was something your mind or subconscious mind picked up. Intuition perhaps?
Intuition isn't particularly a psychic thing either. Most of the time it's your subconscious picking up clues you aren't even aware of and passing them into your conscious mind as thoughts or sometimes just feelings.
Reading a man's body language or a womans for that matter can be very helpful. Most women know how how to attract a man with body language but the reverse isn't true. Most men don't have a clue. Women lick their lips, puff their chests out, play with their hair and tons of other things that let you know they are interested. Sometimes they even do it on purpose.
You could call that erotic mind control because when a female starts doing it on purpose it gets and holds your attention, doesn't it? Come on, I know guys and there isn't a female licking a popsicle scene in any movie they've seen that they haven't rewound and watched again and talked about with other guys..
So guys, who's in control of your mind, at that point? She can even change the fantasy in your mind by depending on whether she licks her lips, play with her hair or even touches herself. Yep, I guess I'd call that type of mind control, erotic, to say the least.
What about men's body language and what it says? Men do a lot of the same things women do. Check their clothes, touch their hair, puff up their chests, and stare until they get caught.
Here's a little mind control trick that women hardly ever tell a man, that he can use anywhere. If you get caught looking at a woman, you look away instantly but not quite quick enough so you know she caught you staring. It's simple, if you look away she is going to make a judgement right then about your ability to assume control. She might not even realize she's done it as it's subconscious but it is a definite strike against you. So her intuition tells her, nah, he's to wimpy for me and she's gone.
Did you ever even think about it, this way, before? How about that, Controlling someones mind with body language as mind control? It's a lot easier than becoming a Tibetan monk and studying for years to control your own mind let alone anyone else's mind.
It is one more way of making money with mind control. You make the interviewer, and everyone else you meet, want you to be there with them. You could get a higher position and be making more money than the last guy that interviewed for the same job.
It is mind control but it's mind control of a type that doesn't take years of study and it's something you can easily learn. These aren't paranormal mind powers but just your normal, average, everyday abilities and they can be taught to you in a few hours instead of a few years.
It may seem paranormal but the reality is it's not. It's just learning to recognize all of the signals that people send out and that you send out. Just by changing your own signals you can make people see you anyway you want them to. As honest, trustworthy, open, interested, etc.
Yes, this means you can use your own body language to lie, at least for awhile. You see, when you learn how to spot different things you also learn the things you are telling others. You can lie with body language but it takes a conscious effort. At least at first. As you get better at it you won't even have to think abut it.
Did you ever instinctively trust someone? I'm sure you have. The question is why? What was there about him that made you trust them or distrust them? Obviously it was something your mind or subconscious mind picked up. Intuition perhaps?
Intuition isn't particularly a psychic thing either. Most of the time it's your subconscious picking up clues you aren't even aware of and passing them into your conscious mind as thoughts or sometimes just feelings.
Reading a man's body language or a womans for that matter can be very helpful. Most women know how how to attract a man with body language but the reverse isn't true. Most men don't have a clue. Women lick their lips, puff their chests out, play with their hair and tons of other things that let you know they are interested. Sometimes they even do it on purpose.
You could call that erotic mind control because when a female starts doing it on purpose it gets and holds your attention, doesn't it? Come on, I know guys and there isn't a female licking a popsicle scene in any movie they've seen that they haven't rewound and watched again and talked about with other guys..
So guys, who's in control of your mind, at that point? She can even change the fantasy in your mind by depending on whether she licks her lips, play with her hair or even touches herself. Yep, I guess I'd call that type of mind control, erotic, to say the least.
What about men's body language and what it says? Men do a lot of the same things women do. Check their clothes, touch their hair, puff up their chests, and stare until they get caught.
Here's a little mind control trick that women hardly ever tell a man, that he can use anywhere. If you get caught looking at a woman, you look away instantly but not quite quick enough so you know she caught you staring. It's simple, if you look away she is going to make a judgement right then about your ability to assume control. She might not even realize she's done it as it's subconscious but it is a definite strike against you. So her intuition tells her, nah, he's to wimpy for me and she's gone.
Did you ever even think about it, this way, before? How about that, Controlling someones mind with body language as mind control? It's a lot easier than becoming a Tibetan monk and studying for years to control your own mind let alone anyone else's mind.
A Symptom of Thinking Small
Self-centeredness has become a staple of our modern society. Rare nowadays are situations where a person gives up on personal ambition to aid in the betterment of another individual. It does happen but at far less frequency than someone who looks out only for his or her personal interests.
From a systems perspective, humans make decisions about the actions that they take. Before taking an action, one's mind processes multiple inputs about a given situation as part of the decision-making process. If the inputs into the mind are limited, than a particular decision may be made that is not an optimal one. For instance, failing to think larger about the impact on the global environment may lead to someone making the decision to discard a potentially recyclable item in the trash.
Furthermore, take almost any wrongdoing that you can think of and put it through this systems thinking filter. Embezzlement, bullying, lying, stealing, cheating, etc all make the grade for self-centered acts. The bully who beats up another child does so to make him or herself feel good without regard to the impact on the other child. Embezzlement stuffs the pockets of the embezzler to the detriment of the organization from which money was taken.
What if the bully was able to consciously visualize that there is an impact on the life of the child that he or she is bullying? What if an embezzler actually thought about the ramifications to the organization from which cash was siphoned away from? The ability to think at a higher level about a situation (systems thinking) has the possibility to change the inputs that are sent into the brain of an individual.
By changing inputs, there is at least a chance that behavior might change as well. I won't go so far as to claim that systems thinking will fix everything in this world. In fact, many people think systemically yet those inputs to the decision-making process do not stop bad decisions from being made. However, systems thinking is a skill that when activated can assure that at least the right inputs are present in the mind. By activating systems thinking in the mind of an individual, we can begin to make a difference one individual at a time.
Dr Bradley W. Semp is the world's leading authority on creating and leveraging Human-Centric Systems to propel businesses in the 21st century. Brad and his team help mission-driven businesses to find FREEDOM and CASHFLOW to do what they love to do through the development of systems that facilitate fanatical customer movements and devoted team members.
From a systems perspective, humans make decisions about the actions that they take. Before taking an action, one's mind processes multiple inputs about a given situation as part of the decision-making process. If the inputs into the mind are limited, than a particular decision may be made that is not an optimal one. For instance, failing to think larger about the impact on the global environment may lead to someone making the decision to discard a potentially recyclable item in the trash.
Furthermore, take almost any wrongdoing that you can think of and put it through this systems thinking filter. Embezzlement, bullying, lying, stealing, cheating, etc all make the grade for self-centered acts. The bully who beats up another child does so to make him or herself feel good without regard to the impact on the other child. Embezzlement stuffs the pockets of the embezzler to the detriment of the organization from which money was taken.
What if the bully was able to consciously visualize that there is an impact on the life of the child that he or she is bullying? What if an embezzler actually thought about the ramifications to the organization from which cash was siphoned away from? The ability to think at a higher level about a situation (systems thinking) has the possibility to change the inputs that are sent into the brain of an individual.
By changing inputs, there is at least a chance that behavior might change as well. I won't go so far as to claim that systems thinking will fix everything in this world. In fact, many people think systemically yet those inputs to the decision-making process do not stop bad decisions from being made. However, systems thinking is a skill that when activated can assure that at least the right inputs are present in the mind. By activating systems thinking in the mind of an individual, we can begin to make a difference one individual at a time.
Dr Bradley W. Semp is the world's leading authority on creating and leveraging Human-Centric Systems to propel businesses in the 21st century. Brad and his team help mission-driven businesses to find FREEDOM and CASHFLOW to do what they love to do through the development of systems that facilitate fanatical customer movements and devoted team members.
Thirty Steps To Be Smart And A Successful Person
1. Have trust only in God and believe only your parents and love them.
2. Love your family with certain limits and keep them happy.
3. Selective friends give you good support to dispel problems.
4. Be a good observer. Observe what's happening around you.
5. Analyze who is who and what is what.
6. Don't smile whenever you feel like instead do it whenever this society expects that from you.
7. Don't cry for yourself but for others.
8. Celebrate and enjoy others occasion, especially one who intimidates others.
9. Appreciate everything and everybody.
10. Don't be impulsive particularly in accepting negative criticisms from others.
11. Show as if you are spiritual.
12. Pretend as if you love everybody.
13. Don't speak through words instead through your eyes.
14. Be silent always.
15. Be neither generous nor stingy.
16. Don't be against anybody.
17. Don't project yourself as if you are the only one who is very loyal and straight forward in this world.
18. Support any policy that is supported by the influential.
19. Be a very good listener.
20. Don't send any confidential matters in text messages.
21. Don't talk any important and secret matters over cell phone or telephone.
22. Don't be an open book but pose as if you are.
23. It is dangerous to tell everyone that you have enough money in your bank account so don't talk about your salary or your account balance, even to your close ones.
24. Keep your body fit.
25. Don't eat for others but for yourself.
26. Start avoiding oily and fatty stuff, especially junk foods.
27. Drink at least three liters of water everyday.
28. Don't sacrifice your sleep for anybody or anything.
29. Wake up before dawn.
30. Don't eat anything after dusk.
2. Love your family with certain limits and keep them happy.
3. Selective friends give you good support to dispel problems.
4. Be a good observer. Observe what's happening around you.
5. Analyze who is who and what is what.
6. Don't smile whenever you feel like instead do it whenever this society expects that from you.
7. Don't cry for yourself but for others.
8. Celebrate and enjoy others occasion, especially one who intimidates others.
9. Appreciate everything and everybody.
10. Don't be impulsive particularly in accepting negative criticisms from others.
11. Show as if you are spiritual.
12. Pretend as if you love everybody.
13. Don't speak through words instead through your eyes.
14. Be silent always.
15. Be neither generous nor stingy.
16. Don't be against anybody.
17. Don't project yourself as if you are the only one who is very loyal and straight forward in this world.
18. Support any policy that is supported by the influential.
19. Be a very good listener.
20. Don't send any confidential matters in text messages.
21. Don't talk any important and secret matters over cell phone or telephone.
22. Don't be an open book but pose as if you are.
23. It is dangerous to tell everyone that you have enough money in your bank account so don't talk about your salary or your account balance, even to your close ones.
24. Keep your body fit.
25. Don't eat for others but for yourself.
26. Start avoiding oily and fatty stuff, especially junk foods.
27. Drink at least three liters of water everyday.
28. Don't sacrifice your sleep for anybody or anything.
29. Wake up before dawn.
30. Don't eat anything after dusk.
The Exact Way to Cure Depression
Depression has been one of the dangerous effects of psychological problems. It is often cause by multiple reasons that has congested the capacity of the brain to cope with the sudden events that may occur. Psychologists are often asked by their clients regarding on how to ease or cure depressions. Depression is mainly a result of improper management of the brain towards difficult tasks and issues or sudden traumatic events that affects the behavior of a person.
A person who quite experience depression attacks often feels tired and very much exhausted. They are physically weak to move their muscles thus it affects the circulation of the blood inside their body making their condition more complicated and serious. It will then later on affect their behavior and the way they live their lives.
There are several reasons on how a person may experience depression. It can also be triggered by environmental and physiological factors. Depression must be treated and avoided because it may lead to serious problems such as insanity. It is a very much common problems especially for those who work in an office.
It is usually triggered by sudden and unexpected events such as death of a family member. Termination from a job can also be one of the factors that can twist the psychological health of a person. Disappointment can also lead to minor effects of depression. When it is difficult for a person to cope with too much humiliation and frustration it results to depression.
A healthy and physically fit person can also be a victim of depression. It does not choose its victims. Students are also prone to suffer from depression especially if it is hard for them to meet the expectations of their parents regarding with the outcome of their grades. A high level of expectation does truly encourage a person. It can also be the source of his or her discouragement.
A person usually gets depressed when he or she is carrying a burden of problems that he or she can no longer afford to carry. The inability to face the consequences of losing something can also be one of the several factors of depression. When a person is not yet prepared to accept and admit defeat it will gradually affect his or her behavior.
A depressed person commonly enjoys the company of being alone. It is hard for them to talk about their problems and disappointments to someone because they are afraid of humiliation and rejection. They are often incapable of trusting other people about their problems. They usually find it hard to explain and choose to stay silent instead of opening up to someone.
The best way to cope with depression is engage in the natural process of counseling. It is a good way of practicing the process of reaching out with your friends and loved ones. Although there are some doctors who give their patients some sort of medicine to ease depression it might also contain chemicals that might harm and worsen your problem.
A person who quite experience depression attacks often feels tired and very much exhausted. They are physically weak to move their muscles thus it affects the circulation of the blood inside their body making their condition more complicated and serious. It will then later on affect their behavior and the way they live their lives.
There are several reasons on how a person may experience depression. It can also be triggered by environmental and physiological factors. Depression must be treated and avoided because it may lead to serious problems such as insanity. It is a very much common problems especially for those who work in an office.
It is usually triggered by sudden and unexpected events such as death of a family member. Termination from a job can also be one of the factors that can twist the psychological health of a person. Disappointment can also lead to minor effects of depression. When it is difficult for a person to cope with too much humiliation and frustration it results to depression.
A healthy and physically fit person can also be a victim of depression. It does not choose its victims. Students are also prone to suffer from depression especially if it is hard for them to meet the expectations of their parents regarding with the outcome of their grades. A high level of expectation does truly encourage a person. It can also be the source of his or her discouragement.
A person usually gets depressed when he or she is carrying a burden of problems that he or she can no longer afford to carry. The inability to face the consequences of losing something can also be one of the several factors of depression. When a person is not yet prepared to accept and admit defeat it will gradually affect his or her behavior.
A depressed person commonly enjoys the company of being alone. It is hard for them to talk about their problems and disappointments to someone because they are afraid of humiliation and rejection. They are often incapable of trusting other people about their problems. They usually find it hard to explain and choose to stay silent instead of opening up to someone.
The best way to cope with depression is engage in the natural process of counseling. It is a good way of practicing the process of reaching out with your friends and loved ones. Although there are some doctors who give their patients some sort of medicine to ease depression it might also contain chemicals that might harm and worsen your problem.
A Symptom of Thinking Small
Self-centeredness has become a staple of our modern society. Rare nowadays are situations where a person gives up on personal ambition to aid in the betterment of another individual. It does happen but at far less frequency than someone who looks out only for his or her personal interests.
From a systems perspective, humans make decisions about the actions that they take. Before taking an action, one's mind processes multiple inputs about a given situation as part of the decision-making process. If the inputs into the mind are limited, than a particular decision may be made that is not an optimal one. For instance, failing to think larger about the impact on the global environment may lead to someone making the decision to discard a potentially recyclable item in the trash.
Furthermore, take almost any wrongdoing that you can think of and put it through this systems thinking filter. Embezzlement, bullying, lying, stealing, cheating, etc all make the grade for self-centered acts. The bully who beats up another child does so to make him or herself feel good without regard to the impact on the other child. Embezzlement stuffs the pockets of the embezzler to the detriment of the organization from which money was taken.
What if the bully was able to consciously visualize that there is an impact on the life of the child that he or she is bullying? What if an embezzler actually thought about the ramifications to the organization from which cash was siphoned away from? The ability to think at a higher level about a situation (systems thinking) has the possibility to change the inputs that are sent into the brain of an individual.
By changing inputs, there is at least a chance that behavior might change as well. I won't go so far as to claim that systems thinking will fix everything in this world. In fact, many people think systemically yet those inputs to the decision-making process do not stop bad decisions from being made. However, systems thinking is a skill that when activated can assure that at least the right inputs are present in the mind. By activating systems thinking in the mind of an individual, we can begin to make a difference one individual at a time.
Dr Bradley W. Semp is the world's leading authority on creating and leveraging Human-Centric Systems to propel businesses in the 21st century. Brad and his team help mission-driven businesses to find FREEDOM and CASHFLOW to do what they love to do through the development of systems that facilitate fanatical customer movements and devoted team members.
From a systems perspective, humans make decisions about the actions that they take. Before taking an action, one's mind processes multiple inputs about a given situation as part of the decision-making process. If the inputs into the mind are limited, than a particular decision may be made that is not an optimal one. For instance, failing to think larger about the impact on the global environment may lead to someone making the decision to discard a potentially recyclable item in the trash.
Furthermore, take almost any wrongdoing that you can think of and put it through this systems thinking filter. Embezzlement, bullying, lying, stealing, cheating, etc all make the grade for self-centered acts. The bully who beats up another child does so to make him or herself feel good without regard to the impact on the other child. Embezzlement stuffs the pockets of the embezzler to the detriment of the organization from which money was taken.
What if the bully was able to consciously visualize that there is an impact on the life of the child that he or she is bullying? What if an embezzler actually thought about the ramifications to the organization from which cash was siphoned away from? The ability to think at a higher level about a situation (systems thinking) has the possibility to change the inputs that are sent into the brain of an individual.
By changing inputs, there is at least a chance that behavior might change as well. I won't go so far as to claim that systems thinking will fix everything in this world. In fact, many people think systemically yet those inputs to the decision-making process do not stop bad decisions from being made. However, systems thinking is a skill that when activated can assure that at least the right inputs are present in the mind. By activating systems thinking in the mind of an individual, we can begin to make a difference one individual at a time.
Dr Bradley W. Semp is the world's leading authority on creating and leveraging Human-Centric Systems to propel businesses in the 21st century. Brad and his team help mission-driven businesses to find FREEDOM and CASHFLOW to do what they love to do through the development of systems that facilitate fanatical customer movements and devoted team members.
Boost Brain Function and Improve School Performance
Our kids are most precious to us. We all want our children to succeed in life and ease into school naturally. Some important factors that affect our kids' cognitive abilities are overlooked, such as nutrition through healthy eating. Kids who have good energy, diet and a good mental outlook learn a lot better than those with a sluggish constitution, poor eating habits and anxiety or depression. The number of children on prescription drugs is startling.
Take a step back and see where your child can improve his or her lifestyle. Diet is key for proper development. Eating well not only helps brain function, but helps our kids ward off many viruses that circulate throughout the school.
Be sure your child eats whole grains such as brown rice, whole grain breads and pasta. Limit white bread, white rice and regular pasta. Some children have food sensitivities, and when the trigger is found they do a lot better in school. Common food sensitivities are wheat, dairy, soya, citrus, peanuts and corn. Have your child tested for sensitivities by your homeopath.
Eat a wide variety of fruits and vegetables. If your child is fussy on fruits and veggies, try hiding them in sauces, using a cookie cutter to make fun shapes or using dips to entice him or her to eat them. There are many greens supplements that can be given to help support a poor veggie eater. Lean meats such as fish, chicken and turkey are a good choice. Beans are a healthy choice as well. Limit sugar, artificial sweeteners, food dyes, white bread, white rice and any refined carbohydrates. Read labels.
Supplements for optimal learning:
Fish oil is a well-researched supplement that improves mood, cognitive function and supports healthy brain development.
B Complex has been studied and found beneficial for kids with learning problems. It enhances mental alertness, improves energy and has a number of other beneficial affects such as improving mood, sleep and brain function.
Grape seed extract helps to enhance learning by improving mental sharpness and blood flow to the brain.
Good bacteria such as Acidophilus and Bifidus are usually deficient in kids who exhibit learning disabilities such as autism and ADHD.
Kids with learning disabilities may need professional help to get them started on a healthy eating plan, supplements and testing for food sensitivities. Homeopathic constitutional remedies are useful in balancing a child. They are tailor suited to the individual child's needs and have no side effects.
Take a step back and see where your child can improve his or her lifestyle. Diet is key for proper development. Eating well not only helps brain function, but helps our kids ward off many viruses that circulate throughout the school.
Be sure your child eats whole grains such as brown rice, whole grain breads and pasta. Limit white bread, white rice and regular pasta. Some children have food sensitivities, and when the trigger is found they do a lot better in school. Common food sensitivities are wheat, dairy, soya, citrus, peanuts and corn. Have your child tested for sensitivities by your homeopath.
Eat a wide variety of fruits and vegetables. If your child is fussy on fruits and veggies, try hiding them in sauces, using a cookie cutter to make fun shapes or using dips to entice him or her to eat them. There are many greens supplements that can be given to help support a poor veggie eater. Lean meats such as fish, chicken and turkey are a good choice. Beans are a healthy choice as well. Limit sugar, artificial sweeteners, food dyes, white bread, white rice and any refined carbohydrates. Read labels.
Supplements for optimal learning:
Fish oil is a well-researched supplement that improves mood, cognitive function and supports healthy brain development.
B Complex has been studied and found beneficial for kids with learning problems. It enhances mental alertness, improves energy and has a number of other beneficial affects such as improving mood, sleep and brain function.
Grape seed extract helps to enhance learning by improving mental sharpness and blood flow to the brain.
Good bacteria such as Acidophilus and Bifidus are usually deficient in kids who exhibit learning disabilities such as autism and ADHD.
Kids with learning disabilities may need professional help to get them started on a healthy eating plan, supplements and testing for food sensitivities. Homeopathic constitutional remedies are useful in balancing a child. They are tailor suited to the individual child's needs and have no side effects.
The Scary Part
Every time I embark on doing something big, I get sick to my stomach. My hands get sweaty and butterflies start swirling around like I'm lying in the middle of a pasture on a bright sunny day. The feeling sucks. But believe it or not, it is one that I have actually started forcing myself to embrace because every time I do, I usually find myself on the cusp of doing something big.
I ask you, when was the last time you experienced the sweaty palm, wiggly jiggly stomach feeling? Did you back down, turn away and head back down the road. Or, did you plow through it going for the glory? You can be honest, no one is listening.
Chances are pretty strong that, in the past, you have had some trepidation, when it came to being pushed out of your comfort zone. Don't worry, you aren't alone. However, it is a habit you are going to need to change if you really want to take your business and life to the next level.
The one thing that separates the "Undeniably Fierce," from all the rest is that they understand the significance of venturing out of their comfort zone. They understand that if the palms stay dry and the stomach stays calm, there is no growth.
They don't even give themselves the "luxury" of having a comfort zone; the minute they conquer one goal, they are off looking toward the next.
If you are ready to do what it takes to become Undeniably Fierce, try the following strategies:
Find a Goal Model: Look around and find someone who has done a superb job at going after their goals. Contact them. How do they do it? What makes them continue in the midst of adversity? What's their big pay off? This will help keep you in an elevated state of mind and encouraged by those who are breaking barriers daily.
Act Small, to be Big: It is time to build your comfort zone "muscle." Each time something takes you out of the safety of your comfort zone, that muscle gets a little stronger. Like weight training, you can't bulk up immediately, but you can do small reps over and over to strengthen the muscles. So, every week, do one thing to move you out of your comfort zone and closer to your dream.
One Day, One Thing: They say you can tell what a person values by looking at their calendar. If you truly value creating an Undeniably Fierce business and life, it will show up on your calendar. Start carving out time to put together your plan. Build a success library. Follow those who have done what you would like to do and see what you can learn from them. Do one thing every day to move yourself closer to your plans.
I ask you, when was the last time you experienced the sweaty palm, wiggly jiggly stomach feeling? Did you back down, turn away and head back down the road. Or, did you plow through it going for the glory? You can be honest, no one is listening.
Chances are pretty strong that, in the past, you have had some trepidation, when it came to being pushed out of your comfort zone. Don't worry, you aren't alone. However, it is a habit you are going to need to change if you really want to take your business and life to the next level.
The one thing that separates the "Undeniably Fierce," from all the rest is that they understand the significance of venturing out of their comfort zone. They understand that if the palms stay dry and the stomach stays calm, there is no growth.
They don't even give themselves the "luxury" of having a comfort zone; the minute they conquer one goal, they are off looking toward the next.
If you are ready to do what it takes to become Undeniably Fierce, try the following strategies:
Find a Goal Model: Look around and find someone who has done a superb job at going after their goals. Contact them. How do they do it? What makes them continue in the midst of adversity? What's their big pay off? This will help keep you in an elevated state of mind and encouraged by those who are breaking barriers daily.
Act Small, to be Big: It is time to build your comfort zone "muscle." Each time something takes you out of the safety of your comfort zone, that muscle gets a little stronger. Like weight training, you can't bulk up immediately, but you can do small reps over and over to strengthen the muscles. So, every week, do one thing to move you out of your comfort zone and closer to your dream.
One Day, One Thing: They say you can tell what a person values by looking at their calendar. If you truly value creating an Undeniably Fierce business and life, it will show up on your calendar. Start carving out time to put together your plan. Build a success library. Follow those who have done what you would like to do and see what you can learn from them. Do one thing every day to move yourself closer to your plans.
It's Your Decision
Has the very thought of a decision that could affect the rest your life make you a complete nervous wreck? Even the most trivial/minor decisions send you into a state of anxiety when you start thinking of the possible things that could go wrong.
It's a normal occurrence that people will decide on various choices which they think will benefit them whether they are related to a career, money, business or even relationships. So how do we recognise which choice is the best with regards to a particular situation. The obvious is sometimes the best choice, but other choices may seem to hold a slight less distinct possibility, coupled together with a threat of regret.
On a more positive note, making wise decisions is to consider all the advantages and disadvantages of every available outcome. Listed below I have put together a very simple 3-step process to help you to make informative decisions irrespective what part of your life they may affect.
1) What will I Gain?
When there is more than one option to choose from, the first big question is, "What will I gain from choosing this option?" Should the rewards be extremely favourable for you, then you may be willing to accept a small risk to benefit from the opportunity presented to you. However if the benefit is negligible you might feel that the risk is not worth taking at the present time.
2) What will I Lose?
The other big question to ask is, "What if the option doesn't work out?" The very thought of a negative belief when a potential opportunity arises creates a lot of heartache, however you could save yourself a lot worry with a bit of foresight! Should the losses be huge with a particular option, a decision to back off for a while may improve the situation.
3) What's the Worst Thing that Could Happen?
The final part of this 3-step process is to consider the next step and ask yourself, "What's the Worst Thing that Could Happen" if I choose a particular option, and would be willing to accept the consequences?"
I know this sounds like a very forthright question, but is very effective in attempting to clarify the situation! If you have a problem in making a decision about the right choice immediately, I would suggest that any choice is not right for you at this time. On the other hand, if the consequences aren't that bad, you know it's a viable option for you.
What do you do if all of your options hold the same potential rewards and consequences? Go with your instinct! Take a few minutes to think carefully about each possibility, and then choose the one you feel strongest about.
When it comes right down to it, there are no guarantees in decision-making. You simply weigh the pros and cons, listen to your inner self, and do the best you can. In the end, there really isn't any such thing as a "bad" decision, because you do learn something from each one you make. If you keep that in mind you should grow more confident with each choice you make, which will help you make even better decisions in the future.
It's a normal occurrence that people will decide on various choices which they think will benefit them whether they are related to a career, money, business or even relationships. So how do we recognise which choice is the best with regards to a particular situation. The obvious is sometimes the best choice, but other choices may seem to hold a slight less distinct possibility, coupled together with a threat of regret.
On a more positive note, making wise decisions is to consider all the advantages and disadvantages of every available outcome. Listed below I have put together a very simple 3-step process to help you to make informative decisions irrespective what part of your life they may affect.
1) What will I Gain?
When there is more than one option to choose from, the first big question is, "What will I gain from choosing this option?" Should the rewards be extremely favourable for you, then you may be willing to accept a small risk to benefit from the opportunity presented to you. However if the benefit is negligible you might feel that the risk is not worth taking at the present time.
2) What will I Lose?
The other big question to ask is, "What if the option doesn't work out?" The very thought of a negative belief when a potential opportunity arises creates a lot of heartache, however you could save yourself a lot worry with a bit of foresight! Should the losses be huge with a particular option, a decision to back off for a while may improve the situation.
3) What's the Worst Thing that Could Happen?
The final part of this 3-step process is to consider the next step and ask yourself, "What's the Worst Thing that Could Happen" if I choose a particular option, and would be willing to accept the consequences?"
I know this sounds like a very forthright question, but is very effective in attempting to clarify the situation! If you have a problem in making a decision about the right choice immediately, I would suggest that any choice is not right for you at this time. On the other hand, if the consequences aren't that bad, you know it's a viable option for you.
What do you do if all of your options hold the same potential rewards and consequences? Go with your instinct! Take a few minutes to think carefully about each possibility, and then choose the one you feel strongest about.
When it comes right down to it, there are no guarantees in decision-making. You simply weigh the pros and cons, listen to your inner self, and do the best you can. In the end, there really isn't any such thing as a "bad" decision, because you do learn something from each one you make. If you keep that in mind you should grow more confident with each choice you make, which will help you make even better decisions in the future.
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