Quantum Rapport

We continue our discussion on this intriguing topic rapport today. Today we will talk about body language but not what you normally think of as body language. While that is important when we delve into what is called matching and mirroring for now we will take a closer look at body language. A quantum look if you will.

When you are with someone in any situation be it business or otherwise start noticing the following:
Skin Color
Skin Tonus
Breathing
Lower Lip size
Eyes
Let's look at each individually. With skin color look for any change in skin color particularly from light to dark. If you are practicing with someone of a darker complexion imagine the person is in a black and white photo and see if you can detect the changes that way.

Skin tonus refers to the muscles of the face. Even if a person has on allot of facial cream or powder the way the light reflects off of their skin can be seen to change. There are over 80 muscles in the face and many make only micro movements. As you start looking at people with your higher sensory acuity you will be able to detect these micro muscle movements.

Breathing is the next thing to pay attention to. Some people breath in the lower abdomen. Some people breath in the mid abdomen and some breath in the upper chest. People who breath in the upper chest are typically shallow breathers and this can be an indication of their preferred representational system. We will discuss representational systems in a later post.

Next we have the lower lip size. When I was first learning NLP, I found this most intriguing. As I looked at people's lower lip size I was able to detect that the lower lip size do in fact change depending on the situation. It is very interesting to see.

The eyes or the window to the soul as some people refer to them are last in this list but certainly not least. As we continue our journey exploring rapport you will see that the eyes tell a very accurate story of what is actually going on in the person's mind. Try this right now. Ask someone the color of the room they grew up in when they were a child. As they answer look at the movement of their eyes. If you did this correctly and did not look away you would see that they ended up moving their eyes up and to your right, their left. How did I know that? Well I am not psychic but these eye movements have been shown to be very predictable.