Are You Attracting Success With Confidence?

I met two men some time back who were very interesting. Outwardly, they were about the same age, close to 40. Both had a nice smile. Both were dressed well. Both had nice personalities.

One was highly successful and the other was struggling. What was the difference? It could be summarized in one word - confidence.

The successful man was born in the United States and the other was an immigrant who had only been in the U.S. for a few years. The successful man, during a business lunch, spoke about his challenges and his achievements with an aire of confidence that, no matter what, he always knew he would succeed in the long run. No wonder he was successful.

The immigrant, when I met him, told me that he worked in real estate and found it a struggle. He was ashamed of his accent and the fact that some people found it difficult to understand him. I was astonished. I could understand him very clearly. However, because of a few isolated cases of inconsiderate people, he had convinced himself that he was a poor communicator. And this was the main reason, he felt, that he was struggling in real estate.

People often sell themselves on a concept that isn't really true. Thus, the following negative affirmations can result: "People don't like me because (whatever the reason). No one wants to do business with me."

If that's not what you want, don't say it.

As I spoke to the immigrant with the insecure feeling about his accent, I told him that the accent was an advantage. That most people consider someone with an accent as being highly intelligent. I told him to turn his thoughts around and to pretend he is confident until that feeling of confidence becomes automatic.

I suggested he say the following affirmation the first thing each morning and the last thing each night: I am the best real estate agent in the world! I made him say that statement out loud several times before we parted. Each time he said it, you could tell that his mind was opening up to the possibilities associated with that pattern of thinking.

So, here's the daily affirmation for this column:

I am a confident person. I attract success wherever I go.

If you want to improve in this area, say that affirmation the first thing each morning and the last thing each night for at least 30 days and watch the magic that will happen.