Blaming Others For Your Problems

Many of us try to avoid personal responsibilities for the problems that we face in our lives. And someone might be actually at fault for some of your problems and difficulties. But as an adult, you are ultimately accountable for whatever is going on in your life. Blaming others for your problems is an escapist's way of facing the situation. It is also a redundant attitude as it is not going to contribute in solving the problem in any way.

So, have you always been blaming others for your problems? If the answer is yes, then it is time to rethink your attitude. It is possible that someone else might have augmented the bad situation you are in right now, but your hopeless attitude has certainly made the matters worse. If you have just been satisfied at blaming someone else for the problem, then chances are you are also waiting for him to make the amends. But if the problem concerns you, then you should take steps towards alleviating it instead of waiting for a savior.

A person who habitually blames other people for his problems also suffers from the mindset of a victim. He positions himself as a helpless person, even when he can avail various avenues to come out of his present predicament. If you are in a habit of blaming someone else for all your troubles, then you might be avoiding your own responsibility in this matter. Like, if you have got late for an appointment because of traffic congestion, you should also acknowledge that starting few minutes earlier might have prevented the situation.

People who do not take responsibilities for their own action also hate to admit that they have been wrong. Instead they need an external agency which could be the convenient scapegoat for all these troubles. However it is important to understand that as adults, our own choices become crucial guiding factors for shaping our lives. It is also healthy to accept responsibility for your own actions. If you have been wrong in dealing with something, accept that and try to make amends. It might very well solve your problem, and even if it does not, it will be easier for you to move on.

Thus, the habit of blaming others for your problems is a reflection of your negative and escapist nature. People, who resort to this, are also weak and passive. Therefore, it is important that you get over this damaging attitude and take control of your life.