Writing to Cope With Stillbirth

The tragedy of stillbirth can leave you feeling empty, lost, and longing for relief. You may be searching for a way to deal with the grief and an effective way to find comfort. While no one thing is magic for every person, there are things that you can try from the comfort of your own home. Below is a suggestion you can do today to cope with the loss of a baby.

Write a letter.

It may sound weird, but sit down and write a letter to your baby. Write as if you were talking to him and tell him how you are feeling and other things you would like to say to him. This is also helpful to fathers of loss. Sometimes it is hard for fathers to express their feelings and emotions and a letter can be an outlet for this pain.

If you wonder what you might say in a letter to your baby, it could begin something like this:

"My darling baby Justin, Mommy loves you so much and I always will. I miss feeling your kicks and hiccups. I had so many wonderful plans for you. I was very sad today when I had to pack your baby clothes away..."

Your letter can include things you remember about him such as the color of his hair or the length of his fingers. There is no wrong way to write and you will not be judged on grammar.

Writing is a powerful way to express your emotions and a healthy way to deal with grief. It is also very inexpensive and can be done in the comfort of your home.

Everyone has a different opinion as to what to do with the letter once it is complete. I found it very helpful to bury the letter. The physical act of digging the Earth and placing the letter in the ground was very therapeutic and beneficial towards working through my grief. This eliminated me re-reading the letter later and ripping open emotional wounds.