How to Honor Yourself, Your Boundaries and Your Dreams

"Because we don't know what is really important to us, everything seems important. Because everything seems important, we have to do everything. Other people, unfortunately, see us as doing everything, so they expect us to do everything. Doing everything keeps us so busy, we don't have time to think about what is really important." -Anonymous

In this busy world of multiple roles & responsibilities it's sometimes hard to listen to that little voice inside of us that says 'what about me'. We ignore it and hope for the best, but sometimes it results in resentment, anger and resignment. To honor ourselves, our boundaries and our dreams is one of the biggest gifts we can give ourselves.

"Belief in oneself is one of the most important bricks in building any successful venture" -Lydia Child

Let's start off with some baby steps and go from there.

We know our kids and marriage are important but there are a lot of other areas and roles in our lives that are important too and it takes managing our priorities and our capacity to have it all, and stay balanced at the same time.

Here are the two key elements of becoming a well-balanced Superwoman/Supermom:
1. Implement the three B's: Basics, Balance and Boundaries
2. Incorporate the three P's (pleasures): Fun, Friendship & Me Time

* Basics: your top 3-5 priorities/whats most important to you
* Balance: organize your schedule to incorporate your basics on a regular basis (daily/weekly or monthly).
* Boundaries: the ability to manage your capacity so you don't get overwhelmed/burdened/burnt out. So in short keep #1 and #2 in place and say no to everything else.

* Fun: that's personal to you. It might be join a running club, it might be scrapbooking weekly, it might by going to the gym with buddies or simply a girls night monthly. Give yourself permission to have fun because suffering is a choice.
* Friendship: Friendship with positive women is crucial to a healthy and balanced life. Make it a point to see a friend/s at least once or twice a month for girl time.
* Me time: is a key component to creating a life you love. This could be 10 minutes a day or an hour a week-it's up to you. But this is the time when you check in with yourself to take 'inventory' (whats working and what's not) that way you stay proactive and present verses becoming a victim to 'life just happening to you'.

Creating a life you love really comes down to choice making. Will you "give in" (say yes to things that don't honor you/your plans/your basics/your boundaries) under social pressure or peer pressure or even self guilt? OR will you honor your boundaries and create a life you love?

When it comes to choice making here's a few questions you can ask yourself:

1. If I say 'yes' to this what am I saying 'no' to? (you can't say yes to everything)
2. Is this choice that honors my limits (capacity), my time, my energy, my boundaries, my basics, my heart?
3. What is motivating me to do this?

You deserve a life you love!

Be Unstoppable.